Recently I was harassed by a group of people in a pub. Pubs are not places I chose to go (how terribly, terribly un-Australian of me! Oh golly gosh!): I’ve never enjoyed them – right from the time I was a kid getting dragged along to the beer garden with my parents. Still, I was there for others, to help a particular celebration.
Things started to go awry as soon as I got there: I had trouble getting one half-drunk person to hear me and move out the way of the path they were blocking, and then I found myself being overwhelmed with negative psychic energy – despite flaming continuously, at maximum intensity - and this was in the beer garden, which is normally the most innocuous part of an Aussie pub. Things continued to deteriorate, and eventually I was on the receiving end of some verbal taunts – which, for safety’s sake, I ignored.
Now, I actually consider verbal assaults potentially worse than physical assaults – it can take longer to recover from the damage (I’ve buried people I’ve known who have been driven to commit suicide by such bigoted assaults), and the frustration of having to bite one’s lip (metaphorically) for safety’s sake is galling. I’m still trying to deal with those events, so please forgive me if they influence what I’m writing.
Now, at the time, to some extent, and ever since then, I have been contemplating the behaviours I observed and experienced.
My first point of contemplation is: how do people miss what is going on around them? I observed little cliques around tables, or blocking pathways, all focused intensely within themselves, all seemingly oblivious to other groups. Now, to some extent, that is OK: they are there to, presumably, socialize with their friends, but:
(a) some interaction with other people is inevitable (that’s the nature of pubs);
(b) I am aware that some people go to pubs for the purpose of meeting others – which I will come back to shortly; and
(c) it can be dangerous – or at least irresponsible – under some circumstances – to not pay attention to what is happening.
As well as verbal abuse, there are physical assaults that happen at pubs, and assaults of people who have just left pubs. The best forms of self defence begin BEFORE any form of assault ahs occurred (this applies to both physical AND non-physical), and include maintaining a good situational awareness. Without being paranoid, it is quite easy to occasionally glance at the people around you, and see who is staring (which some do to signal interest in sex, of course), or who has aggressive body language, or who is sounding particularly obnoxious as a drunk, and make a mental note to be wary, or to avoid leaving too soon after they leave.
If you’ve had a verbal stoush with someone, it is not a good idea to leave the pub just a few minutes after them: give them some time to cool down, or get bored, or forget (if they are particularly drunk) why they are waiting, and wander (stagger!) off. I understand this waiting outside pubs and nightclubs has been a particular problem at some nightclubs (although I could not find a good link to illustrate that now).
THE SAME PRINCIPLE APPLIES TO PSYCHIC INTERACTIONS. If you’ve just been on the receiving end of some psychic attack from someone, don’t leave immediately after the person: they may not be there physically, buy they may well have left more negative energy (or negative intent) there, and you risk walking into it before it has had a chance to disperse. If people are drunk or alcohol affected, they are unlikely to be able to focus enough to create a thought form which will last – and, on possibly your part, they are also unlikely to be able to keep up their psychic defences to adequately protect themselves against negative psychic energy (this is one of the reasons I rarely drink, and never anywhere other than home).
So … it is irresponsible not to pay attention to what is happening around you. Yes, ideally one wouldn’t have to because the world would be perfect and safe, but the world is neither perfect nor safe.
Ideally, one should never be surprised by an assault – physical, verbal or psychic. Ideally, one should have seen the threat building – in fact, ESPECIALLY if one is psychic. Part of setting up my wards (psychic defences) includes a trigger to warn me consciously if a potential threat is developing, or someone or something impacts on the ward.
This sort of topic is something I have sometimes warned other trans* people about, incidentally – it is part of the bucket of survival skills trans* people need.
Going back to the behaviour of others in a pub, I think a lot of the problem can be summarised as being a case of putting own physical needs ahead of others emotional/mental wellbeing/safety. Person A wants to connect to person B, and is prepared to do or say something at person C’s expense if it will get a laugh. It’s the sort of thing I’ve seen amongst groups of friends: make fun of an outsider and get everyone laughing together, and that must mean we’re all bonding … Well, as someone who is usually one of those outsiders, I consider such behavior shows selfishness, ignorance and appalling immaturity (on a number of levels, not just spiritual).
It may also, in my opinion, show excessive focus on physicality – putting sexual needs of oneself ahead of the wellbeing of others – and such behavior is, when all is said and done, NOT necessary to get laid. But I have seen women defend obnoxious male drunks, basically because of fear of being without sex - or because the obnoxious male drunk is family. [1]
This recent incident has hardened my views on Aussie pubs. I now consider them a great source of (psychic and emotional) evil - not so much the cause or initiation of evil, as a place where society’s problems are magnified by mutual reinforcement and by picking up negative entities.
I will no longer go into pubs – certainly not heterosexual pubs, and I am going to be wary of other pubs for a very long time …
Love, light, hugs and blessings
Gnwmythr
Update:
- A very wise woman has pointed out to me - very correctly (Diolch Cariad) - that one of the main reasons women may defend men in pubs is not so much so they can get sex, but for fear of being bashed or otherwise abused when they get home if they DON'T defend their partner.
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Tags: Psychic attack, psychic health, energy work, personal responsibility, pubs, Australia, survival, assaults, skills,
First published: Monday 18th October, 2010
Last edited: Tuesday 4th November, 2010
