Post No. 838C - the fourth set of keywords

Owing to Blogger's limits on keywords, when I have a lot I have to post them in batches. This is the fourth lot of keywords for this post.

Keywords:

abuse of power, anger, animals, artificer, attitudes, authentic presence, awareness, balance, Balanced Positive, Bhakti, blackmail, blood, challenge, change, chaos, children, circle, clairvoyance, concentration, consequences, control, death, Deities, dimensions, discrimination, divination, dowsing, Earth (element), earthbound entities, elements, emotions, energy work, equal and opposite reaction, ethics, evil, faery, faith, family, fear, fight or flight or network and nurture, Fire (element), focus, folk lore, forgiveness, friends, genes / genetics, gifts / giving, grounding, growth orientation, guilt, healing, history, honour, ignorance, informed decisions, insularity, invisibility, invocation, isolation, judging others, justice, knowledge, language, levels, limitations, love, Mӕgan, magic, magickal language, magickal techniques and styles, magickal tools, manifestation, metaphysical mass, metaphysics, moral courage, motivation, mythology, myths, names, neochristianity, nightfall, Paganism, pain, Pentacle, pentagram, personal responsibility, perspective, phenomena, power, prejudice, preparation, prophecy, protection, psychic attack, psychic development, psychism, psychology, racism, reincarnation, rescue, residue, responsibility, revenge, risks, rituals, sacrifice, scepticism, Seelie, self knowledge, sexism, shielding, (the) Sight, society, spells, Spiritual Maturity, spirituality, subconscious, submissiveness, sunrise, survival after death, teaching, telepathy, temperature, tests, thaumaturgy, the Greater Good, train others how to treat us, uncooperative, understanding, undetectability, Unseelie, ward, werewolf, yoga,

Post No. 739: The Profound Irrationality of War and Prejudice

I saw a documentary (released in 2012, directed by Jacqui and David Morris) last week on the life and work of photographer Don McCullin: it was graphic, harrowing, and very effective in conveying his anti-war, and anti-violence “message”. I can’t find an online link for it (I saw it via Netflix), but it left me thinking about the profound irrationality and amathia of those involved in extreme violence, which reminded me of this article last week, and I found myself contemplating the problem of how to address the problem of profound irrationality.

I’ve started an article (for another website) on a few unconsidered aspects of discrimination (such as the fact that I claim to right to judge those who judge or condemn or discriminate against me – whether consciously or unconsciously [e.g., are they amathiac, malicious, misled sheep, insecure, in denial, etc], and, inescapably, those people are revealing something unsavoury about themselves – even if it is that they are not up to date with knowledge/laws/etc … and I am going to reject the sugar coated euphemism of “discrimination affects mental health”, which some bigots interpret as meaning the problem is a weakness on the part of the victims of discrimination, with the unvarnished truth – e.g., misgendering trans people, which is always a vicious, malicious and highly personal form of violence, is so directly responsible for suicides that it should be considered a form of attempted murder); the article begins by mentioning that there are people who still, nearly five centuries after the circumnavigation organised by Ferdinand Magellan, and just over five decades after humans went into space, people who believe the earth is flat, which will lead later into the fact that you cannot change the minds of everyone, no matter how powerful or correct you are.

In fact, I recently read a quote along the lines of It's hard to win an argument with a smart person but near impossible to win an argument with an amathiac person (based on, I think, a quote by William G. McAdoo, “It is impossible to defeat an ignorant man in argument”; this often seems to be credited to Mark Twain, but Twain said something slightly different), which is useful reminder of this. Be that as it may, however, I’ve found education and talking will enable changes to most bigots – and the gradually changing attitudes towards LGBTQIASB+ people are evidence of that, but (and the persistence of racism, sexism and other forms of bigotry illustrate this point) not everyone will be changed – which is why the great Dr Martin Luther King, Jr., said “the law cannot change the heart but it can restrain the heartless”.

This is important: it, combined with:

• having met people who do not need the education in order to, for instance, treat trans people with respect and basic manners; and 
• cisgendered people with problems such as deep voices; 

is why some trans people do not try to “pass” (there are other reasons such as challenging stereotypes, but also many try to pass in order to prevent themselves being bashed or killed), but it also shows that it is important not to base your advocacy or psychic work for the BPLF on an outcome of getting everyone to be better human beings. Trying to do so will lead to imbalance in you, and thus health problems – maybe even emotional or mental problems. Change those who can, and (BPM) “restrain the heartless”.

The next point to consider is how to bring those who are unbalanced, profoundly irrational, or amathiac back to a state of balance. In some cases, that won’t happen until their next life, which makes the matter the responsibility of that person's Higher Self, not someone else. Of those who can be brought back, some must be BPM restrained first and foremost, others will only respond to treatment from those who they are physically with, or from people they respect – often meaning people who have been through the same experience (that latter category can include discarnates), but there are some we can help from a distance, by clearing – as is for the Highest Spiritual Good - nonBPM units, and – with acceptance of their right to use their free will to reject it – by sending BPLF healing. I may try to write a post about this sort of work at some stage …

Another point here is that exposure to extreme violence, or the threat of extreme violence can and often does lead to major problems. According to the Ken Burns TV series “The War”, the US Army figured soldiers would be utterly broken after 240 days of combat. I’ve posted other links along this line, or about the changes that can happen (e.g., to here), but there are children in places like Syria who have known nothing but war in their lives. The war in Yemen started in March this year: five months ago … in another three months, will problems of the type I am discussing start to affect its conduct and negotiations even more?

[1] BPLF = Balanced Positive (spiritual) Light Forces. See here and here for more on this.

[2] Please see here, here and my post "The Death of Wikipedia" for the reasons I now recommend caution when using Wikipedia. I'm also exploring use of h2g2, although that doesn't appear to be as extensive (h2g2 is intended - rather engagingly - to be the Earth edition of "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy").

[3] I apologise for the formatting: it seems Blogger is no longer as WYSIWYG as it used to be, and there are a lot of unwanted changes to layout made upon publishing, so I often have to edit it immediately after publishing to get the format as close to what I want as possible.

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr, Pagan Energy Worker, Wéofodthegn

(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear"; ... aka Bellatrix Lux … aka Morinehtar … would-be drýicgan or maga ... )

My "blogiography" (list of all posts and guide as to how to best use this site) is here, and my glossary/index is here.

I started this blog to cover karmic regression-rescue (see here and here), and it grew ... See here for my group mind project, here and here for my "Pagans for Peace" project (and join me for a few minutes at some time between 8 and 11 PM on Sunday, wherever you are, to meditate-clear for peace), and here for my bindrune kit-bag. I also strongly recommend learning how to flame, ground and shield, do alternate nostril breathing, work with colour, and see also here and be flexible.

I am a Walker upon the Path of Balanced Positivity, seeking Spiritual Maturity.

• Neither eloquence nor inarticulateness inherently indicates correctness, but, as words can kill, the right to freedom of speech comes with a DUTY to be as well-informed, objective and balanced as you can be.
• Gnwmythr's Stropping Strap: Occam's Razor only works if  the simplest solution is actually recognised as being the simplest, rather than the one that best fits one's bigotries being labelled 'simplest'.
• I mourn the desecration of the term 'Light Worker' by commercial interests, and the warping of the word 'Light' away from 'Clear Light' by the "(Fluffy) White Lighters".
• Presuming that everyone has, or wants, a smartphone is discriminatory, unspiritual, and downright amathiac.
• Obsessive love may be a cover up of guilt.
• Proxy embarrassment is both a form of control, and an internal barrier to truth, honesty and perspicacity.
• Our entire life experience, with all the many wondrous and varied people, places and events in it, is too small a sample for statistical reliability about Life.
• Notwithstanding the greatness of exploring the world and humanity, the greatest exploration is of mind, spirit and Soul.
• May the world of commerce and business be recognised to be a servant, not a master, of the lives of people.
• Life is not a struggle for status. 
• Being accustomed to interacting via certain rules makes those rules neither right nor universal.
• Like fire to the physical, emotions to the soul make a good servant, and a bad master.
• The means shape the end.
• My favourite action movie of all time is "Gandhi", although I've recently come across "Invictus" and might put that one in to that category. However, I loathe the stereotypical action movie - and, for similar reasons, I loathe many dramas, which are often emotionally violent, more so in some cases than many war films.
• All of the above - and this blog - could be wrong, or subject to context, perspective, or state of spiritual evolution ... and blogging has been described as graffiti with punctuation :)

Human dignity is the inherently cumulative holistic combination of human rights, wellbeing and potential, and all actions or interaction which promote, realise or facilitate same. The converse also applies: whatever degrades, diminishes or robs humans of dignity, is inherently undignified.

Gnwmythr

The “purpose” of spiritual evolution is not the attainment of “spiritual perfection” - not in the sense of not having to evolve further, at any rate, since there is no such thing. We need to evolve in order to grow - but we can take rest breaks (hopefully well earned :) ) along the way. No, the “purpose” of evolution is, rather, to perfect our ability to learn, and thus grow.

Gnwmythr

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Females, get over 'cute'. Get competent. Get trained. Get capable. Get over 'cute'. And those of you who are called Patty and Debby and Suzy, get over that. Because we use those names to infantalise females – we keep females in their 'little girl' state by the names we use for them. Get over it. If you want to be taken seriously, get serious.

Jane Elliott

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good [people] to do nothing.

(based on writing by) Edmund Burke

We didn't inherit the Earth from our ancestors, we only borrowed it from our children

Antoine De Saint-Exupéry

There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.

John F. Kennedy

Tags: bigotry, discrimination, insanity, judging others, personal characteristics, personal responsibility, prejudice, society, amathia, violence, war,

First published: Manadagr, 10^th August, 2015

Last edited (excluding fixing typo's and other minor matters): Tuesday, 11^th August, 2015 (edited 2nd last paragraph)

If you appreciated this post, please consider promoting it - there are some links below, and there’s also Instagram. 

Remember: we generally need to be more human being rather than human doing, to mind our Mӕgan, and to acknowledge that all misgendering is an act of active transphobia/transmisia that puts trans+ lives at risk & accept that all insistence on the use of “trans” as a descriptor comes with commensurate use of “cis” as a descriptor to prevent “othering” (just as binary gendered [men’s and women’s] sporting teams are either both given the gender descriptor, or neither).

Copyright © Kayleen White 2007-2024     NO AI   I do not consent to any machine learning aka Artificial Intelligence (AI), generative AI, large language model, machine learning, chatbot, or other automated analysis, generative process, or replication program to reproduce, mimic, remix, summarise, or otherwise  replicate any part of this post or other posts on this blog via any means. Typo’s may be inserrted deliberately to demonstrate this is not an AI product.     Otherwise, fair and reasonable use is accepted under Creative Commons 4.0 on an Attribution-ShareAlike basis https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/  

 

Post No. 398 - Non-Violent Communication

The principle of nonviolence [1] (which I will abbreviate to NV for the rest of this post) is good. Why? Because
(a) the importance of free will (violence is imposition of one person's will on another, which can be done by words as well as deeds), and
(b) most people grow better with NV - not necessarily peace, though, as they may need a challenge (and some people CHOOSE to learn the hard way: if they do, that is their right, and you have no right to be upset on their behalf).

A form of communication has been developed which is aimed at honesty, avoiding judgements and looking after oneself and, as a result of doing so, being able to look after others more effectively. The communication style is called "Non-violent Communication" (which I am going to abbreviate to NVC for the rest of this post). Before you go further, please go to the website at http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/index.htm, and have a browse.

* plays elevator "musak" for a few minutes while you browse *

Back? Good-oh!

Overall, I think NVC is quite good (well, brilliant, in many ways) - and it has been around for something like half a century, so I think it has stood the test of time, although it clearly hasn't taken off in a mainstream way (hasn't taken off in a mainstream way "yet", perhaps?). 

Despite my ranking of it overall as being "good", I have a few concerns about it that I wish to touch on in this blog post.

1. Firstly, and this is a trigger reaction of mine, this is similar in style to past experience of mine with a manipulative drama queen who believed in something that was, in effect, akin to radical honesty (and on that, I always note the character on the TV series "Lie to Me" who began as someone being radically honest but eventually learned that white lies have a purpose in some cases). Whilst it may be my past reaction coming out, I am concerned NVC could be - or could too easily used to be - selfish. Having made that point, however, I must acknowledge that NVC has an element of seeking intimacy that wasn't present in my previous ... "encounters". This concern leads me to also ask (and I am not far enough through their material to answer this):
    - Will adherents to NVC respect people's possible desire not to be intimate (e.g., for workplace applications of these techniques)?
    - Do the needs listed include solitude, and the need for physical exhilaration - which is also a valid need for some? (On that, I recall a young boy who apparently thrived when playing footy despite his mother being paranoid about "competition" and thus keeping him out of that for some years - and it was the mother who told me about that, by the way)
    - Do the NVC people make the fundamental and fatal mistake of trying to claim some things are universal? (I think yes on this count, sadly - and I write "sadly" because NVC has an enormous amount of potential.
   
   Now, as a digression and a sweeping generalisation all in one, it seems to me that the first people to introduce something have to be fairly fanatical in order to jolt most others out of their lethargy, and but then, after the first generation of practitioners/adherents, a more realistic version of whatever the philosophy is evolves. As an example, consider the struggle for equal rights of women in the mid-20th Century, where some women (yes, they called themselves by the "F" word - Feminists) campaigned for equal power sharing - half for men, half for women, and were met by the response of some men "well, we think around 1/3 of power could go to women, but we'll keep 2/3". In response, they campaigned for "all power to women", and then the retards (my pejorative and judgemental label) said "whoa! well, half and half is better than that so OK." (Of course, that struggle still has to happen in too many places of the world ... and currently Australia seems, to me, to be in a backlash phase to the gains of the late-20th Century for women's rights, so we haven't reached the final stage of that particular issue yet ... maybe in another 50 years ... ).
2. Secondly, emotions are a great tool for the soul to learn and evolve, but they are not the purpose of existence (I've added a new saying on this to the "provoke a reaction" section of my signature block to express this). I consider that NVC inherently acknowledges this, in that it pursues a goal of NV - which is a mental concept, not an emotion.
   
   On that, in my world view love is more than "just" (note the emotive qualifier? :) ) an emotion: it is a way of living, a way of expressing the self, and includes honouring one's duty to those one loves. That may mean at times doing things one doesn't like - such as working to pay the bills, rather than pursuing one's heart's desires. (On that point, I am thinking of situation where one has young children - and they are NOT such a joy that it "makes it all worthwhile" ... anyone who claims that is naive and lacking in life experience! If the situation involves only adults, well, that's a different kettle of fish, and NVC type principles deserve to be applied by all.)
    
3. Thirdly, NVC seems to assume expressing emotions (including identifying what part of the body an emotion is affecting) is the "only" (perhaps "best" is a better word) way to resolve things. Now, when I was bullied as a child, the bullies made it very clear they knew what they were doing, so I have long considered the current fashion of getting victims to talk to bullies about how the victims are feeling a complete and utter waste of time - and, in fact, it is something that FEEDS the bullies and therefore is extremely irresponsible. Working on solely verbally expressing emotions is, in my experience (I first started doing work like this over two decades ago, by the way), at times, unsatisfying and downright useless - it is good for people who are verbal, but useless for those who are physical or mental. Physical people may need, for instance, to run out their emotions, and mental people to meditate on their emotions. The concept of dealing with emotions through talking doesn't cater for all people - which is a criticism of other counselling techniques as well. Still, I think that, over time - particularly if more people speak up as I have just done, better versions of these tools may be developed.
4. Next we come to the issue of unevenness of skills. Someone with good verbal skills using techniques like this on someone who isn't equally as skilled is AS VIOLENT as someone who punches another person - I've buried people who were driven to commit suicide because of words, and have long considered the statement that sticks and stones may break my bones but words will only hurt me to be an absolute nonsense - in fact, criminally stupid. Sadly, I have seen a lot of this, and strongly consider that there needs to be a "level playing field". It goes just as much for those who are fighting against discrimination, who tend to be more gifted with words (such as myself - and I feel comfortable enough with words to have a blog), as for those who are discriminatory.
   
   On that, one story I read in some NVC material concerns me. The author is laying in a room when a friend comes in and says she wants to speak to him; he comments on her tone of voice and says he feels fear and wants to lay looking at the ceiling as a result. I actually consider the person concerned could have expressed their feelings better, much better. And, looking at it from the point of view of the friend, if someone came to me after speaking that way, I would quite possibly have had my trust in them damaged to the extent that I wouldn't talk to them until they had - over some time - re-established their position of trust.
   
   The story reminds me of a situation where someone wanted to get a "be heard" group going about problems in a group, to facilitate healing. I haven't replied as I have no need to express myself to most of the people in that group (I have to one already): I've already talked about it to the people I trust and want. Furthermore, I felt there was a bit of a bias towards expecting that attendees of that little group would choose to continue to be involved in that community afterwards. I had already decided to leave that community, so that bias - and I may have been wrong - was off-putting.
5. An issue I will have to grapple with as I work through the materials (and I am just beginning) is how selfish/spiritually immature some of this approach may be. That's largely my personal button, but I may post more if I think it is relevant ...
6. Finally, we have the issue of reality. People need to pay the bills, rent and buy food, etc. This is not as imperative as when we were gatherer-hunters, but there are still some basic survival things, and those needs can overwhelm this. If one looks at Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow [1], http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs [1], http://gnwmythr.blogspot.com.au/2010/05/changes.html and http://gnwmythr.blogspot.com.au/2009/06/maturity.html), I consider the tools of NVC range from Social up to Self-Actualising, but there are still the basic physical needs for food, water and shelter that need to be met, and for millions (probably billions?) of people in the world, aren't being met. If I had a starving child, I really wouldn't give a hoot about how I talked to people, I would do whatever was needed to give my child a chance of survival.

So, overall, I consider NVC is good - in fact, brilliant. However, despite 50 years of development, this may not be the final version we see of this: I think there may be better (more matured, and more mature) versions of it yet. In fact, when I was discussing this topic with my partner, she summed up my concerns and a possible response with a comment to the effect that NVC needs to be adapted by each person in order to be authentic - otherwise, it risked being a script, a very verbose script.

So, what is my suggestion? Go for it - use it, study it, seek to improve it on the basis of your experience. It's possibly one of our next major steps forward.

Now ... more reading: 

• Questions and answers on vampies and werewolves from a "ghost hunter" website (http://www.zerotime.com/): http://www.zerotime.com/night/odd.htm#01 (originally found at http://spiritrescue.ning.com/forum/topics/1972845:Topic:356187);

From "The Age":

• "Why I'll be kicking you off this blog", 9th August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/blogs/blunt-instrument/why-ill-be-kicking-you-off-this-blog-20120808-23u7p.html;

• "Article pits Hun against student intern", 9th August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/article-pits-hun-against-student-intern-20120808-23un9.html;

• "'Go find a boy!' - WTF?", 9th August, 2012: http://www.watoday.com.au/lifestyle/life/go-find-a-boy--wtf-20120808-23u5m.html;

• "Spectators jeer family as cyclists miss gold", 4th August, 2012: http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/olympics/cycling-london-2012/spectators-jeer-family-as-cyclists-miss-gold-20120803-23las.html;

• This is a case of the tail wagging the dog. The Olympics are expensive, and the adverse impact they have on people's lives, in terms of the people living near the damn event, has become unacceptable, in my view. If ever my home city of Melbourne were to consider going for the Olympics, I would actively oppose making such a bid. The worst prt of it is, the whole thing is a failure. They started as a way to get nations together to promote harmony, believe it or not, and all i see is "which nation has the highest medal count" ... Any cultural interchanges? Any promotion of harmony and peace anywhere? And then there's the constant controversy over drugs ... Time to maybe drop them and start again?
  "Draconian ‘Wi-Fi police' stalk Olympic Games", 3rd August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/technology/technology-news/draconian-wifi-police-stalk-olympic-games-20120803-23jdc.html; 

On the other hand:

• "Bald and bold: Joanna a champion on the track and a champion to thousands of others", 5th August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/olympics/cycling-london-2012/bald-and-bold-joanna-a-champion-on-the-track-and-a-champion-to-thousands-of-others-20120805-23n4k.html;

• "Afghan runner carries true spirit of the Games with her", 3rd August, 2012: http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/olympics/athletics-london-2012/afghan-runner-carries-true-spirit-of-the-games-with-her-20120802-23i6d.html;

Continuing ...

• "Abused orphans take fight for justice to UN", 6th August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/abused-orphans-take-fight-for-justice-to-un-20120805-23ny8.html;

• "Unshaven: unprofessional. Mohawk: no worries!", 10th August 10, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/small-business/blogs/work-in-progress/unshaven-unprofessional-mohawk-no-worries-20120809-23xjk.html;

• "No kids, no happiness? It's a myth", 7th August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/no-kids-no-happiness-its-a-myth-20120807-23r84.html;

• Why wasn't Bhutan's Gross National Happiness Index mentioned?
  "The pursuit of happiness", 3rd August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/national/the-pursuit-of-happiness-20120802-23i2e.html;

• This person predicted this stuff back in 1988 ... !!!!
  "Here comes the sun: chilling verdict on a climate going to extremes", 7th August, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/here-comes-the-sun-chilling-verdict-on-a-climate-going-to-extremes-20120806-23q5o.html;

• I'm not in either category of human that this article says is prone to this problem, but I also experience something similar (phantom hearing phone calls - which is subjective clairaudience, verging on objective), and there is another possibility: psychism, related to people sensing others considering contacting them. Oh for a less materialistic world - grumble, grumble, grumphh.
  "Touch and go for phantom phone vibrations", 12th July, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/digital-life/mobiles/touch-and-go-for-phantom-phone-vibrations-20120712-21xwf.html;

• "Things that go jump in the night cast a long shadow", 14th July, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/things-that-go-jump-in-the-night-cast-a-long-shadow-20120713-221gu.html;

• And finally ... "Researchers get a lift from 600-year-old bra find", 19th July, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/world/researchers-get-a-lift-from-600yearold-bra-find-20120719-22b91.html. 

[1] Please see my post "The Death of Wikipedia" for the reasons I now recommend caution when using Wikipedia.

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")
My "blogiography" is here.
May the world of commerce and business be recognised to be a servant, not a master, of the lives of people.
A home is for living in, not feeling, becoming or being rich or a “better” class than others.
The International Labour Organisation's definition of "full employment" is wrong, useless and misleading.
Armageddon is alive and well and happening right now: it is a battle between the indolence of "I only ..." and/or "I just ..." on one side, and perspicacity on the other.
Like fire to the physical, emotions to the soul make a good servant, and a bad master.

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good [people] to do nothing. EDMUND BURKE

Your children are not your children. ... They come through you but ... they belong not to you ... for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow KAHLIL GIBRAN

We didn't inherit the Earth from our ancestors, we only borrowed it from our children ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPÉRY

 Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity. MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR.

Those whom we cannot stand are usually those who we cannot understand P.K.SHAW

Tags:about me, attitudes, communication, judging others, nonviolence, peace, revenge, society, violence,

First published: Laugardgar, 11th August, 2012

Last edited: Saturday, 11th August, 2012

Post No. 101 - A New Visualisation: Astral Trees as a clearing/healing tool

I developed the following technique while working on clearing a nest of vampires. No, not people who turn physically into dust at the touch of sunlight (nor even people who have porphyria) - not even people who are eveil or unpleasant, and some of them even have an interest in spiritual matters. No, this is a group of people who have wound up in a situation with lots of complicated factors (serious illnesses, including cancer [one terminal], lack of money, addiction [to smoking], etc) that they are being overwhelmed by.

When you're drowning, you grasp at almost anything - lifejackets, timber, or even other people. When I was a kid being taught in the local life saving club, one of the things we were taught to do is dive down when approaching a struggling swimmer and some up behind them so they don't latch on to you and get both of you into trouble. That was in the 60s: I rather suspect things may have changed since then (because of personal floation boards, etc), but the principle is a useful illustration of what I am talking about.

These people are not feeling good: they are, as is the human tendency to want to do, wanting to feel good. If anyone offers help, they will latch on and take more than the other can give. They will be as pleasant as they can be, in their own way, and as grateful as they can be (in their own way), but they will be totally unaware of the problems they are causing others - much as a drowning swimmer will not be aware that he or she is drowning the would be rescuer.

The end result, though, is that they fit into the strict definition of energy/emotional vampire - and they have, unfortunately, picked up some astral entities who are vampires (not ones that honour the Black Veil, a Code of Ethics associated with part of the vampire culture - see "Magickal Self Defense", by Kerr Cuhulain, pub. Llewellyn, ISBN 978-0-7387-1219-2, p. 111*), and who are both feeding off the pain, fear and other negative energies, and doing all that they can to

So ... what does one do?

Well, one does NOT abandon them: one uses smarter healing and clearing techniques and, while maintaining a sympathetic relationship, keeps a protective distance.

This is a lesson all would be healers and helpers need to learn: don't be too involved, look after yourself - if you don't, you won't be able to help anyone. It is particularly important to be aware of this if, as is too often the case, you are getting involved with helping others because of your own needs (for self esteem, to feel valued/needed/wanted, etc). Those may not be ideal motivations, but - unlike those who take cheap shots at such people - I think it is worth having more people helping others than less, provided the helpers are not causing harm, and such people do NOT necessarily automatically cause harm (they do, however, in some cases - usually where they place their own expectations of what they, the "helper", would want in that situation, rather than being objective and checking what the person being helped actually wants).

In terms of this blog post, a technique I have developed for this situation is to create a thought form of a tree. In this particular case, it is a silver coloured tree - actually, a series of trees, one for the house, and one for each of the key players, including the astral vampires who have attached themselves to these people. I perceive trees as light pumps, so effectively I have created light & love pumps for these people and the hourse they live in.

The trees were nearly overwhelmed in the first few hours, until I added vortexes, both up and down, to remove the negative energy being flushed out by these creations.

As is the case with any new technique, I've tried it out on myself first, and found that it is particularly good at clearing chakras, but not so good at, when I tried it, helping with asthma attacks (although that may have been because I was trying to deal with the lungs, rather than the other nonphysical energies which are associated with the asthma.

It may work for other people's asthma; it may work in this case I'm using for and not others. If yopu feel so inclined, think about it, meditate on it, communicate with your guides, and maybe try it.

I'm just hoping it will make helping these people less of a painful, disruptive and unpleasantly wearing experience. I have other, earlier, and more important commitments in life to honour.

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr

* I'm working on a review of this book

Tags: emotions, energy work, evil, expectations, family, healing, immaturity, interpersonal interactions, judging others, life lessons, lifestyles, limitations, personal responsibility, Vampires, trees

First published: Sunday 17th January, 2010

Last edited: Sunday 17th January, 2010