Saturday, 26 February 2011

Post No. 234 - Reincarnation

Last night I found a film which deals with reincarnation: Belladonna. Eureka! I have come across an increasing number of films dealing with survival after death, but it is nice to find one which deals with reincarnation.

The special features including a bloke talking about past life regression, using the commonly accepted approach of finding where bad things have happened to the victim ("client") - my choice of words, aimed to be deliberately provocative. Now, there is definitely a need for this sort of regression for some clients, but some people would be better off using regression to take control of their lives and looking for the earlier lives where they had created the negative karma leading to the problem for which they are suffering trauma now. I've posted about this recently.

One thing I unquestionably do agree with with is that you should NOT attempt to muck around with hypnosis without professional training, nor should you take going and looking at lives where you have experienced trauma lightly, as such may result in a need professional help to deal with the issues.

(It was interesting that the regressionist made no mention of Dr Morris Netherton, who started this in, I think, the 1960s or 1970s, instead referring straight through to someone from the 1980s called Weiss as if nothing had happened before him. Maybe that was because Weiss is American and Netherton was - I think! - British ... ?)

I consider the way I was taught (in the 1980s) to do regression at ASPECTS, using impressions and commentary from your Guides/helpers/Higher Self, to be a much better way to approach this - for either form of regression. In fact, viewing something as an outside observer, rather than reliving it, is, in my opinion, more likely to lead to effective learning about the situation, rather than re-triggering the emotional/phyiscal/mental pain/anguish/distress.

I also note that the late, great Dr Ian Stevenson was critical of hypnotic regression ...

Anyhow, for those of you who have joined the Spirit Rescuers group, here is a link to an essay concerning life lessons and reincarnation. I think it is from an interview with someone by the name of Peter W. Jenkins ... (I sincerely hope it has been posted with permission!)

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Tags: reincarnation, past lives, past life regression,

First published: Laugardagr, 26th February, 2011

Last edited: Saturday, 26th February, 2011

Post No. 233 - Professionalism

One thing I have posted about previously is professionalism (for instance, see here). This is a topic I know a fair bit about, as my day job is as a professional (an engineer, who is just about to be audited on her Continuing Professional Development :) ), and I have tried to have a professional attitude to whatever psychic/spiritual work I do.

I think professionalism as an attitude is something that can be sadly lacking, at times. For instance, one member of our family was once falsely diagnosed with an infection by a doctor many years ago, basically because the doctor disapproved of anything other than "standard", "normal", hetero lifestyles. (I was EXTREMELY glad when that doctor's lies were exposed, although the quack got off lightly, in my opinion, as no legal action was taken - understandably, given that the whole episode had been VERY traumatic. Mind you, should we have started a "doctor X is practising evil medicine" page on Facebook? ... Hmmm ... no, we shouldn't have :) [1] )

I think too many New Agers/psychics/pagans are naive, and ignore things such as laws about fraudulent claims in the interest of seeking verification on any grounds - verification by numbers: it's bit like fundamentalist Christians seeking converts ...

If they had a professional attitude to things like .. providing a service to others, they would make sure they AND THEIR CLIENT are properly prepared, and not take full payment for half-service. They would be honest about problems, which is something I like about Charmaine Wilson - mind you, Charmaine posted recently on Facebook (I'm not there, by the way, but my partner is) about never using protection: I consider that unprofessional and irresponsible. Charmaine is doing a lot of good work, and the good karma that creates, together with the importance of her "mission", can be enough to adequately protect her: that doesn't apply to many people, and others need to accept personal responsibility for their psychic state of being and safety when doing psychic/spiritual work ( for instance, see here and here, which are two of the 58 posts of mine which touch upon this topic to greater or lesser degree ... ).

Charmaine also mentioned in that post about the need for mediums in the world. It's interesting that, since I launched my website, I have had such little interest ... maybe it's a case of people wanting to avoid the Light? Of course, if you're disinclined to email, you could always try asking mentally for help, as one family member did during a dream - and apparently I did turn up to help. (If you do, let me know if turned up or not, and whether I was any help, please :) )

Anyway, I am now going to go and watch a DVD with my partner, using my most professional attitude towards DVD watching :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings


[1] Mind you, I did seriously plan to write a blog post about the perfidy of this "doctor"

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Tags: professionalism, attitudes, personal characteristics,

First published: Laugardagr, 26th February, 2011

Last edited: Saturday, 26th February, 2011

Thursday, 24 February 2011

Post No. 232 - The greatest sin?

Recently I mentioned in a post about what could be called a "cargo cult" of maturity: people acting as if they are mature to claim the benefits that go with being older (and, too often, conveniently ignoring the responsibilities that go with the being mature/older). An example that too easily springs to mind is teenagers, but this also applies to older people acting mature (and, in my post, I mentioned someone who done this when she was in her thirties), and older people acting as if they were teenagers (some retirees taking a cruise on a cargo ship and doing exactly that are mentioned in Sheelagh Rouse's memoir of living with Lobsang Rampa, "Twenty Five Years Living With T. Lobsang Rampa").

Well, there can be benefits in "acting as if" one is "X" when used in a spiritual sense - PROVIDED one does not delude oneself, nor attempt to delude others. (it helps to develop those characteristics in onself, almost as if it was a variation of an affirmation.) The issue I wish to consider in this post relates, in part, to how people behave with children, and I wish to take a different point of view to Rampa on this, but I also wish to consider the issue of "indigo children".

Now, Rampa considers that the world went off track in World War One because women went to work, and - in his view - family discipline broke down, and children were raised without discipline.

Now, in brief, my response to that point of view is:
  1. Problems with obnoxious children existed before then - to a significant enough extent, in my view, to counter the argument that social dysfunction is related to a change in family structure. Also, modern ideas on what constitutes a proper family structure are a relatively recent thing - go back a millennia, and see how family compared to tribe, for instance.
  2. ALL parents involved in a parenting situation (there may be one, two or more) have a responsibility because of their involvement in that parenting situation to do what they should, as parents: it is NOT just "the mother's" responsibility - apart from anything else, what if there are two mothers, two lesbians, raising children (which research shows leads to normal, but more inclusive and considerate children)? Men don't get to cop out of time with children and responsibility for doing what they can simply because they work elsewhere, rather than doing the work at home that housewives - and househusbands - do.
  3. As well as deferral of gratification [1], a major need in becoming mature (which is not the same as chronologically aging!) is realising the need for self discipline. There is an argument that this comes from the external imposition of discipline: that may be so for some, no doubt, but it comes MOST OF ALL from the example that parents set, and is absorbed by osmosis into the children (see my recent post here on the topic of osmosis). In fact, here in Victoria we have even had government funded campaigns about this happening in the case of domestic violence, where young boys may learn that behaviour by seeing it amongst those about them, and think that it is "how relationships are done".
In terms of a "spiritual breakdown", I consider materialism and self centeredness to be far greater problems than any change of family structure, and for that one can look to other things - for instance, the "consumer revolution" as goods became cheaper when mass produced, the massive increase in wanting to look out for oneself that the Second World War created (because people picked up on the intense desire to survive of the millions of people in the conflict, concentration camps and bombing campaigns, and then contributed to a massive group thought form of - understandably - "me first/I will survive this") and maybe even the desensitising that MAY have occurred through television news programmes. (Has anyone actually looked at that influence from television, rather than blaming war movies and westerns - which, in the first decade or so, were not particularly graphic anyway? Mind you, I think it is very important to be well informed as to what is happening in the world.)

If I was asked to rate the examples I have just given, I would put the second, the massive group thought forms created by massive suffering, whether wars, famines (as happened in China when Mao tried his agrarian reform) or natural disasters, is probably one of the biggest and yet least credited influences affecting the condition of this planet. (Not to mention the many people who are still earthbound in misery and pain because of their deaths in such wars etc.)

Before I go further, I would like to pose a solution to this particular problem that each of you, Dear Readers, can do:
  • know yourself deeply, intimately and truly, so you can separate your feelings, thoughts and emotions from those that are from external sources;
  • build your psychic health and strength so that you are more naturally immune to such influences;
  • learn and USE the skills of flaming, grounding and shielding (see here and here);
  • learn to meditate so you can be in touch with your Higher Self (or, if you prefer, you innermost, truest self) and thus be less swayed by what is happening or being said or done around you on the physical plane;
  • send positive energy (including healing) to those who are in trouble, or worse off than yourself - even if all you do is light a candle for them, and make such donations or other help as you can;
  • avoid a lifestyle of excess, meaning do not be excessively consumeristic.
Nevertheless, despite the woes of the world, there IS some progress being made (for instance, see here). One of the improvements that is being claimed, counter to Rampa's concern about young people, is the arrival of what are termed "indigo children".

Now, I actually consider the notion of "indigo children" to be largely myth. I consider the "improvements" being noticed are largely due to different circumstances - namely, that fewer people in developed societies have to struggle for survival, and as a result, other characteristics have the chance to come out.

It's a bit like diseases of affluence, such as heart failure: when people lost their teeth at forty and starved to death, they didn't have a chance to develop heart problems due to being overweight. When, a little closer to modern times, people had got past that, many were still struggling to have enough food to eat in winter and to have a place to live (I am thinking of the late Middle Ages, Industrial Revolution and Victorian era), and basic education that we take for granted now (such as literacy or numeracy - although some consider those not as good as they should be) was their equivalent of today's "indigo children". Now, we have more than enough to eat, a lot of reasonable education (although certainly room for improvement) and "indigo children", who may simply be manifesting what all of us can do if we had come into their circumstances, are the latest novelty.

I do not consider children now are inherently either better OR worse than at other times in recent history - in fact, I can quip that I find kids as obnoxious now as when I was growing up (which, incidentally, is why I chose not to be a teacher, despite several teachers suggesting it - I looked at the behaviour of my classmates and said "no thank you").

I do not consider them worse, although world circumstances may make it seem that way, but neither do I find them better: children are still mostly immature people (almost by definition, as it were) and in need of guidance, as has recently been said about "AFL girl" - see here).

The problem which may apply when kids are over-rated is that they may be over-indulged, which is not good for developing maturity or maturity's side kick, self discipline. (It could also actually contribute to inappropriate reactions to agape, as I recently posted about.)

Of course, this may actually be a variation of self indulgence, which is a particular shamanic sin according to Castenada, largely overcome by the philosophy of "feel the fear but do it anyway". I am thinking here particularly of what I have seen in China of the one child family, where having a male child is seen as something wonderful, which is compounded by not supposedly having more than one child. In that case, the attention lavished on the child is not actually about the child, nor about love, it is about feeling good about oneself for what one has done "for the family".

It's an easy enough step from that to extrapolate and say "is self indulgence the greatest sin in the world?" After all, that characteristic can be easily blamed for materialism, greed (wanting to do more than the Joneses, in a sense), selfishness, lack of self discipline, etc. So ... is self indulgence actually the "sin" underlying the world's woes? No.

No, I think the world is far too complex to say one thing is "it". We need to address ALL the genuine problems of this world, including world hunger and poverty, if this world is to become a better place.

What each of us can do is start looking after our little bit of the world, and making sure we are trying to make the world a better place by making ourselves better people, by dealing with problems, learning about psychic matters and considering spirituality (or our "purpose of life").

Love, light, hugs and blessings


  1. [1] I started having lessons on this early. When I was at primary school, I was eating a sandwich for lunch, carefully leaving the best for last, when a friend of mine - who didn't have lunch that day for some reason - was hungry, grabbed my sandwich and bit into the best bit that I had been saving for last. He was actually very disbelieving that I was doing so.
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Tags: personal responsibility, personal characteristics, self indulgence, selfishness, psychic health, energy work, society, socialisation, war, thought form, groups, family, prejudice, children,

First published: Thorsdagr, 24th February, 2011

Last edited: Thursday, 24th February, 2011

Wednesday, 16 February 2011

Post No. 231 - Random thoughts ...

So I don't lose them, I am going to just cover a few points briefly in this post.

Firstly, I would like to cover "dimensions". Have a look at this post here, about "the signs and symptoms of the evolving adult" (and here for a post about signs and symptoms of the awakening Kundalini - but do finish reading this paragraph first, please). Now, we DO all continue to evolve and grow - no doubt about that, and there ARE signs and symptoms of that growth (such as natural, automatic rising of the Kundalini when one has sufficiently evolved - you don't need to do anything in particular to "make" it rise!). However, I have a couple of points to pick with this article.

Point of Pickiness No. 1: dimensions
We live in a three dimensional world: we have some control over length, width and up/down. I can lean in any one of those directions, for instance. If I lived in a two dimensional world, I would only be able to, say, move back and forth, or side to side, but not move up or down. It would be like being confined to living entirely on the surface of a sheet of paper.

On the other hand, if I lived in a four dimensional world, on the premise that the fourth dimension is usually taken as time, I would be able to do things like .. in the next minute, go back to yesterday. I can't: that means I do not live in a four dimensional world.

If I could communicate to someone in a two dimensional world (and maybe cause their version of "UFOs" by putting a finger tip on their sheet of paper), how would I explain the concept of a third dimension? Hmm ... pretty tricky.

By the same token, it would be hard to explain the fourth dimensional world to someone like me who is living in a three dimensional world.

OK, I am all OK with that: I'll get to experience a fourth dimensional world when I get there, in due course.

What really gets my goat, however, is when people start talking about "fourth dimensional awareness", which is a nonsensical phrase, when what they REALLY mean is "advanced spirituality/metaphysical awareness", or "fifth dimensional" when what they REALLY mean is "VERY advanced spirituality/metaphysical awareness".

You don't need to claim ridiculous connections to validate spirituality!

In fact, one of the problems of making that claim is that it can seem like this world can never be good enough, almost as if you HAVE to go elsewhere to gain an adequate spirituality, and that is just absolute, complete and utter rubbish.

So ... no more rubbish about dimensionality, please: just stick to "degrees" of spirituality/advancement of knowledge.

Point of Pickiness No. 2: weight

The article also includes inferences that weight gain may be due to accumulation of negative energy. This is a bit like saying all overweight people eat too much, or all overweight people are unattractive (or that you must be thin to be attractive). Rubbish!

Just as some weight gain can be due to overeating, in my experience some weight gain can be associated with trying to cope with negative energy (think about where some people, particularly men, tend to accumulate such weight: round their middle, almost as if they are protecting their Solar Plexus Chakra [1], which is the chakra associated with emotions ... )

It is, perhaps, significant to this idea that the body tends to store toxins in fats, so, by the principle of "As Above, So Below", perhaps one can suggest that "toxic" energies (negative or disharmonious energies) could be associated with fat ...

Well, any time I have chosen to lose weight (and that is not because of some idiotic idea that I have to be thin to be attractive), I have found exercise the most useful device, with eating a sensible diet helpful. I am capable of undertaking some very string energy work, and have never found it led to any particular weight loss. In fact, when I was learning and was working with some substantial crystals on top of me (see here), I tended to put on a layer of fat under where the crystals sat - perhaps to help protect me from the weight of the crystal ...

Random Thought No. 3 - more on aging

I heard a couple of radio programmes on ABC radio as I drove in to work today, one of which related to my recent post on aging (see here):

So, how does that second point relate to aging?

Well, something I recall reading once was that hunter-gatherers (and, biologically speaking, that's still what we are) generally worked around 25 to 30 hours a week to survive. That suggests, to me, that putting in 40+ hours a week at a job in order to "survive" is something we are not meant to be doing. Hence, we should, in fact, arrange the world so that we spend less time struggling to survive, and then we could have more time for ... what?

It is at that moment that I think fear of boredom kicks in for many people.

I'm OK, I have lots of hobbies and interests (such as developing myself personally and/or spiritually and/or psychically), and I would, in fact, love to have a chance to get bored enough to start putting more time into those other interests. But other people are not in the same category ... in fact, I think many older people lose their interest in life through boredom, and then ... just ... die. There tends to be an assumption that retirement is when one "should" be looked after by one's family (which I fortunately will not be in the position of having to say no to), or one "should" take off on the round-the-world trip, etc, etc, etc.

So ... what happens? What goes wrong?

I think firstly, as I mentioned in my recent post, people fail to look outside their focus on family, job and social status. Secondly, I think people feel that they "should" have self-centered interests ... maybe they should accept that it is OK to want to do something like lobby for the human rights of the third world during one's retirement. Daniel Akst's book "We Have met the Enemy" may help prompt some thought about the balance between greed and selflessness ...

(Note that I am not necessarily endorsing anything written in the book: I am just suggesting it as a way to possibly help think an issue through.)
By the way, have a look at Grandma Moses' lifestory as an example of someone starting something at an "old" age ... she started painting in her 70s!

Random Though No. 4 - suffering and catastrophes

Have you ever wondered that there seems to be more natural catastrophes in areas that are less developed?

Well, leaving aside the issues around perceptions colouring "reality", news reporting and lower building standards in areas subject to extreme poverty, I DO happen to think we influence the Earth - psychically, as well as physically.

That, to some extent, makes sense as it is the flip side of the coin to the idea of ... doing a ritual to heal the Earth. Of course, that does mean it gets a bit scary when one thinks about how many people are unhappy on this planet, as it means the planet is also unhappy and may eventually get to the stage where She wishes to do something about it ... perhaps to ALL of us .... hmmm?

Now, if simple compassion for the plight of another human being isn't enough to motivate you to do something to help them, perhaps the thought of their suffering triggering catastrophes might?
No? Well, how about the fact that one incurs negative karma when one fails to take action if one is in a position to help others? There are lots of inexpensive things one can do - such as wish or pray for those less fortunate than oneself, or light a candle. If you can afford it, why not try donating 0.7% of your after tax income?

Here in Australia we have a movement which is trying to encourage the Government to spend 0.7% of Gross Domestic Product on overseas aid. Their being a bit slow to take that on, so maybe I can do their job for them, in a sense, and make a donation each pay to a suitable cause.

It's fairly small, but the payoff may be worth it.

Random Thought No. 5 - group karma
A couple of thoughts came to me recently concerning "group karma".

Now, to some extent the plaintive wail I hear about this from some people is, "but it wasn't me that did the wrong!" That may well be true enough, but:
(a) the situation is a bit like marrying into a family; and
(b) you have other karmic debts.

If you marry into a family, then, to some extent, you may well be taking on their problems as well as their pleasures. This is not in the sense of "marrying into mob" (NO-ONE has to take on active criminality), but in the sense of a normal commitment between loving adults (not necessarily opposite gender, and not necessarily only two - see here and here). In that sense, if there is, say, a sibling who is differently-abled, you take on loving and caring for them as part of establishing a relationship with the rest of your partner's family - just as if there is some rubbish and abusive or unhealthy relationships, you hopefully know about them and either decide to tolerate them or do what you can (without patronising) to resolve the issues, or decide to avoid that part of the situation. To push the example a little further, if the family has a family business, you may be getting into the financial ups and downs of the business.

In the context of group karma, when you plan your life, you choose the group you will be born into or will live in as part of your lesson plan. So ... you basically made some sort of agreement around the group karma aspect of your life situation - it may not have been a simple "yes I'll do what I can to help pay off that debt", but something was decided ... about both the good and bad aspects.

Now, the only thing to consider here is that, unless you're beyond rebirth and have come back solely to help (in which case you don't need this little blog :) , you're not a saint - Christian or otherwise! That means you have karmic debts: it may, in fact, be to your spiritual advantage to come back into a group which has a karmic debt, as you will be able to, to some extent, pay off your personal debt through working on the group debt. People often tend to feel better about doing something which will help people close to them who they care about, rather than just doing something of benefit to themselves, so they may do more under these circumstances than they would if all they had to do was deal with their own karma.

Let's consider a couple of examples.

Suppose you had had several centuries of being a violent thug through the Middle Ages. As part of dealing with that (including the lessons), you may choose to come back as a German soldier in the Second World War and experience defeat, and the collective guilt associated with the Holocaust.

Or ... you may have had several centuries of avoiding the gritty aspects of reality by hiding in a nunnery, and thus come back to a situation where you cannot avoid problems ... perhaps as a white in South Africa or Australia who winds up working against racism.

The point is, we are not helpless, innocent victims of the karmic situations we find ourselves in. Of course, we also find ourselves in unpleasant situations for other purposes, such as learning, or spiritual testing - it is not all karmic ...

I've got quite a few other posts on karma: for now, I'll just suggest here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here and here.

Point No. 6 - some reading on the Akashic Record
Now, I always keep in mind Lobsang Rampa's caution about the Akashic Record, which is to the effect that you need to be particularly gifted to be able to access it. That said, though, the following articles, which come via the Spirit Rescuers site, may be of some interest: see here and here.

Point No. 7 - some reading on the healing benefits of meditation
This link, also via Spirit Rescuers, has an interesting article on the healing benefits of meditation [2].

Love, light, hugs and blessings


  1. See here, here and here for some of my past posts on this.
  2. Some of my past posts are here and here.

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Tags: dimensions, evolution, growth, about me, aging, suffering, catastrophes, down to earth, karma, groups, physical attributes,

First published: Wodansdagr, 16th February, 2011

Last edited: Wednesday, 16th February, 2011

Sunday, 13 February 2011

Post No. 230 - Forgiveness

I have found there is not much written on the mechanics of being more forgiving. Sure, being a forgiving person has benefits such as allowing one to move on past wrongs that have been committed to one (and I am considering MAJOR wrongs here, such as rape or other sexual assault, or torture), making the world a nicer place, etc, but it still isn't always easy to be forgiving, and not many people write about how to actually be forgiving - or, at least, not in a way I consider emotionally and intellectually satisfying (Christians saying to put my trust in their Lord, for instance, is not any use to me).

I recently watched the documentary "Cry of the Snow Lion", which is about Tibet and the horrors of the Chinese invasion. One of the things which amazed me was that some of the Tibetan monks and nuns had been treated appallingly, tortured, raped, etc, yet they still bore those who had committed these atrocities to them no ill will.

I would find that difficult to do, but I can see that it could potentially be healing if they could do that. (I can also see some disadvantages, which I will come to later in this post.)

I also have read Ingrid Poulson's brilliant book "Rise", which actually does have some good practical advice that is relevant to this post. This is what I wrote about the book in a previous post of mine:

... the experiences of Ingrid Poulson, who wrote the book "Rise" (pub. Pan Macmillan Australia, Sydney, 2008, ISBN 978-1-4050-3863-8) after her ex-husband killed her children and her father while she was reporting his rape of her the previous night to the police, about how she came to live a life of resilience after these terrible events.

This author's focus is - more or less, using my words for the moment - on denying the person who has tried to harm her the satisfaction of allowing herself to be harmed. Similarly, it could be argued that the Tibetan monks and nuns have, by refusing to hold ill will towards those who have done them harm personally, denied those abusers/attackers/torturers the result which was sought. It's a little like my attitude towards bullies when I was a kid: I refused to give the bullies the satisfaction of seeing me upset or intimidated or whatever it was that they sought to make me feel (that's not, in my opinion, bravery or anything noble, necessarily, on my part: unlike the Tibetan monks and nuns, it's just pig-headed stubbornness, one of my personality characteristics :) ).

OK, I can see the benefit in that: it is hard, but I can also see that not hating people does prevent forming negative karmic links to those people, which can lead to things such as being born into the same family (see here for a discussion of karma which includes some of the mechanics of group reincarnations).

But the problem is, I don't want to forgive people like child abusers. I cannot "hate the action, not the doer" in those cases (although I can in other, more minor circumstances) as the harm to children (and this is personal for me, as many people close to me have been abused, and I experienced some abuse - although mine was not from anyone I knew) is so deep and fundamental, and the cause of the harm is the essence of the person doing the abuse. Still, over lifetimes, I know those abusers DO change (not within one lifetime, though; incidentally, many of best parents I know were abused as kids and have reacted to that by making sure they don't ever do anything even remotely like that).

In the case of those bigots who have impacted on my life, I don't want to forgive them either - but am aware that the bigotry may have been, for instance, due to their immaturity, ignorance or fear (education is one of the cornerstones to changing bigotry and prejudice round). The most pragmatic thing would be to forgive those people and let their karma sort them out, but, still, would be at least nice for them to acknowledge the impact they had on me (and I don't mean get a meaningless rote or formulaic apology because someone else said that was what they "should" do: I ONLY accept apologies that are genuine, from the heart, and delivered because the apologising person has genuine remorse, not because they want to get out of jail or avoid having some restriction on them or their lifestyle).

Does that mean I'm not as self actualising as I could be? Yes, probably.

However, I may know the action that was committed was wrong, but the wrongdoer doesn't seem to know it. If I forgive them, are they missing out on feedback/learning? How are they going to learn?

This has cropped up in a workplace where a former boss of mine had the attitude that if no-one upset (i.e. someone "overcomes", say, being sexually assaulted or discriminated against), there is no problem and therefore no need to change anyone or anything (this cretin thought that gays and lesbians were only 1 - 2% of population, and hence 10% of those with AIDS being gay/lesbian meant HIV/AIDS was a gay problem!*).

Now, spiritual logic/knowledge says "the Universe" will teach wrongdoers of the errors of their way, but that is not emotionally adequate, and may be irresponsible. I'll write about the possible irresponsibility soon, but to be forgiving, I first need to deal with the emotional adequacy issue. May be my former boss (who I once told the person who promoted him should never have been put in charge of human beings**) is part of my problem with that.

Now, related to this, sometimes we feel need to be validated that we were correct. As an example of that, we recently had a dispute with some neighbours over a tree, and had the experience of them coming onto our land and cutting back the tree. Because of this, and the attitude of the owner we are renting from that she could give them permission to do things like that, I went to the trouble of getting legal advice which confirmed my understanding that the neighbour could not do what they had done, and the owner could not give the advice they had to the neighbours. That's OK, but what I really want is for both the neighbour and the owner to admit that they were in the wrong, and cannot do what they did. That, unfortunately, won't happen - in part because the neighbour has died, so I no have to decide: do I let this issue burn at my inner being, let it go or take some action?

In this case, it is not that important to me, so I have chosen to let it go.

If the situation involved a principle of human rights, I would not. If nothing else, I would write a letter to someone (for instance, my local MP has received letters from me about problems I have observed of racism and homelessness) or take some other action.

This starts to lead into the final point I wanted to make: we train people on how to treat us by the sorts of behaviours we accept. In the case of the neighbours, ideally I should have taken them to a mediation hearing. In the case of bigots, I either report them to the police, clear their negative units, stand up to the, or all of the preceding.

I can do so without malice or ill will - although I will often choose to use "righteous anger" - which is my version of being forgiving. The forgiveness is that I am not going to tie myself to them by making it personal for me, but for the sake of myself, them and others, I will not let them get away with wrong doing.

Is that forgiveness? To me, yes it is - and achieving that involves overcoming the emotional problems I've mentioned earlier in this post. To others, perhaps some Christians or some New Agers, it may not be. That's OK, they're free to have their own opinion on this, just as I am free to have mine.

I'll try to be forgiving for my sake, but I'll be inclined to be unforgiving of others for their sake. Is that hating the action but not the doer? Hmm ... maybe ...

Love, light, hugs and blessings


* The normal guides I have come across in a couple of decades of activism are that 10% of the population are gay/lesbian, 1 in 30,000 are transsexual, and too often people will not admit to any bisexuality. Recent research discussed (last year - 2010) on a radio programme indicated 3-5% are same sex attracted, and research I have read from this state suggests around 5 - 8%. I think the Kinsey report indicated around 2-3% would be what we consider same sex attracted (not a bad proportion for the era he did his research in). Other people have commented that 3% are transgender (I have heard people claim statistics of up to 10%).

My personal opinion is that transsexuals will go to 1 in 15,000 as the social acceptability of being trans increases and F2M surgical techniques improve, and that we will find ultimately that 80% of the population are bisexual - once all the social prohibitions against being bi have been well and truly dealt with. (That will, in my opinion, wind up as around 8% same sex attracted, 8% heterosexual, 80% bisexual or polysexual, and others either asexual or variable and other forms of sexuality I don't know about yet.) As it is now, too many researches seem to ignore the possibility of being bisexual: why? The prejudice of too many gays and lesbians against bisexuality? There are some appalling, rubbish remarks made about bisexuality such as that bi's are "fence sitters". No, I know enough bisexuals (including my partner) to know that that is a load of rubbish! Oh, and will the manufacturers of baby sex test kits admit that there is an up to 3% chance of their test being inaccurate becaue of transgender/transsexual issues?

None of this, byt the way, justifies the appalling prejudice and bigotry of that bastard I used to have to work for. The comment concerned was, as was his wont, intended to be imflammatory and malicious, and this particular person was responsible for me deferring coming out for many years and suffering ill-health through stress, mental strain and just generally being in a toxic workplace.

** I could write many posts about his faults - e.g., setting others up to fail in projects so he could come in and be a "white knight" nobly saving the company ... his inability to allow in project budgets for the extra work he wanted done ... his expectation that people would make sacrifices for the sake of company profit ... his appalling habit of called unpaid overtime "donated time"! He is one engineer who I will be glad to hear has passed over.

Is that forgiving of me? No, it is not ... see, I find this difficult ... but I will try :)
Tags: forgiveness, holding on, not letting go, change, immaturity, family, life lessons, personal responsibility, personal characteristics,

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Post No. 229 - The downside of learning by osmosis

Lobsang Rampa comments in one of his books that the main way one learns from spiritual teacher is by osmosis - by absorbing the essence of the more evolved soul simply by being in their presence. Now, I happen to think that there are benefits - important, VITAL benefits - from formal teaching as well, but I do concede the point that many of us tend to absorb and take on characteristics of other people we are around.

As an example of that, consider some people, may be a couple, maybe a menage a trois or group marriage or some other combination, who have been together for a very long time (and non-monogamous options DO last for long times as much - or maybe even more - than the couple option): the various partners often tend to take on characteristics of other partners, sometimes through deliberate choice, other times with less awareness. In the lesbian world, a joke is that after ten years you sound like your partner, after twenty you have the same body type.

That does NOT happen in all cases. In fact, I would also suggest that those who are more self aware, such as people in polyamorous relationships or those seeking to grow personally and/or spiritually, are LESS likely to take on the characteristics of others, but it still does seem to happen.

Before I continue, I'd like you, Dear Reader, to consider two other examples:
  1. the case where a less savoury person (a so-called "bad egg") tends to lead others, who are perhaps seeking peer approval and thus seem "weaker" (the latter being a description I would contest, but have come across many times), into troubling behaviour (maybe petty thefts, or gangs); and
  2. the reported tendency of the timing of periods of women living together to begin to coincide (see here).
The point is, in addition to the formal teaching one provides, there is also the matter of the example one is setting - not just physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, in deed AND word, but also the example one is setting others psychically.

Most people have a certain amount of psychic awareness. It may be heavily suppressed, buried deep in their unconscious, but it usually there. That sensitivity, that latent awareness, is still bubbling away, feeding indirectly into the conscious of the student. That, I consider, is one of the mechanisms which Rampa is commenting on when he refers to "osmosis". That unknown information gathering may be partly responsible for a student who is uncomfortable with a teacher and "cannot put his/her/hir finger on it" ("it" being the reason for the discomfort).

From the point of view of those teaching, this means one should always be aware of one's inner state, one's aura, and the other nonverbal messages one is giving to those one is teaching. I started becoming disenchanted with Christianity as a small child when I saw adults saying one thing and doing another. Be wary of doing the same!

The significance of that last admonishment is that we are ALL, always, having an influence on those about us, both those with a significant part in our life, and strangers. The influence we have will be ultimately best if we are reasonably honest (I don't support the notion of "radical honesty") - at least with ourself, if not others.

This goes beyond just keeping one's aura closed, it is saying we actively contribute every day, every part of every day, to the reality we collectively create with otrs. Sure, there are a lot of others out there, but if each one of us decided to contribute a little more to the world being a loving, responsible place, maybe the planet would suffer a few less wars, a little less climate change, a little more spirituality.

It's worth a thought - and maybe see here, here and here for a few other of my thoughts :)

As a final thought, if you are benefitting from someone else, please consider the effect you may be having on them. I regularly send my Guides healing to help them in their task of guiding, teaching and healing me, for instance. As another example of what can happen, we were recently adopted by a stray kitten. He turned out to be a tough, feral sort of a character, but he has become more .. "civilised" by being part of our tribe. On the other hand, the cats we had beforehand have become rougher ... (so we are working on re-training them).

Don't drag your osmotic lift down :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Post No. 228 - Appropriate effort

For those of you who have a car, you'll know (hopefully) that you scale the maintenance work with time. So ... you do a minor service (oil change, grease & lube, tighten a few things, etc) every 10,000 km or three months or so, a major service (minor service plus extras, such as a tune, perhaps) every 20,000 km or six months or so, and something major like an engine rebuild or replacement only after several years and many km have passed. You don't do a major service every 10,000 km or three months or so simply because it is "better" than a major service. You use an appropriate amount of effort to keep your car going, avoiding doing an excessive amount of work for silly reasons because, by being appropriate in your efforts, you are:
(1) saving money;
(2) saving resources (which is ultimately better for the planet); and
(3) probably going to look after your car better, in the long run.

It is the same (or should be!) for housework. If you consider floors, for instance, you may sweep the trafficked areas daily, vacuum weekly, and wash the floors once every couple of months or as needed. You don't move everything out so you can do a super-thorough wash (or, if you have carpets, say a steam clean) every day on the grounds that it is "better" than just sweeping.

Again, as with the car, being TOO thorough is a waste of money, resources (brooms wear out quicker and need replacing, for instance, and that all adds up to the environmental impact we have) ... and it may indicate a problem along the lines of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or, at the very least, a problem with ego (as in trying to do feign superiority over those who do less comprehensive, but still adequate, housework: it is a variation of the problem of "trying to keep up with the Joneses" ... ).

How about taking the same sort of approach to psychic and/or spiritual work?

For example, I use prayers and flaming-shielding-grounding several times a day, psychic exercises to build my strength and practice my skills several times a week, and rituals for formal protection maybe a few times a month.

Are there other areas you can think of to make your efforts more resources and time appropriate?

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Post No. 227 - Old vs. mature

Something which has cropped up as a point for me to be aware of in my spiritual development recently is the difference between old and mature - as in, "old" spirituality vs. "mature" spirituality.

First, consider a young person who has just discovered something they like and agree with. They may well be - if they are stereotypical :) - enthusiastic and tend to preach of the advantages of this matter to the entire world, not conceiving for a moment that the rest of the world may well have already discovered and considered the matter, with some finding it compatible, useful and having refined it beyond the dreams of the person concerned, and others finding it genuinely incompatible, no matter how they work at it. (Actually, this applies to most people irrespective of age ... )

Someone who has a more mature attitude to anything which is new that they have come across will be aware that others are quite likely to have found this before, and that, due to the natural and valid variation in the world, some will not find the matter useful, and others are simply at a point in their lives where they do not have an interest in the matter - and that is OK, even if the matter concerned could be of benefit to them owing to their right to free will.

The mature person is more likely to discuss such matters calmly, with equanimity as my Guides would say :) , whereas the young person wishes only to push their point of view, and seek converts to their point of view. (Oddly enough, I have observed that the need for converts often reflects an inner doubt ... )

If someone has an immature view on a matter for a very, very long time, they may develop what I call an "old" attitude: they have become rigidly fixated on their point of view, and have locked out the possibility of change. That rigid fixation could also involve seeking converts.

To me, much of Christianity (not all of it - the Metropolitan Community Church is one example I would give of a form of Christianity that is NOT old, as it is more inclusive and responsive to change than other versions of Christianity; I used to consider Anglicanism more mature than old, but that is changing now over the refusal to accept same sex attracted priests) seems to have what I would call an "old" attitude towards spirituality: their view is the only acceptable viewpoint, and they need to actively acquire converts to reassure them that they are on the correct path. I consider the Roman Catholic Church to generally have a "old" attitude, but some parts of it do not - for example, in South America, and some of the recent pronouncements of their Pope.

On the other hand, much of paganism and some of Buddhism in Asia seems to me to fit more into the category of having a "mature" attitude towards spirituality. Converts are not required to be actively sought, although Buddhism in the West seems to have taken on the unsavoury practice amongst some of its Western adherents of doing exactly that (the attitudes of recent converts to Buddhism is one of the things which turned me against that form of spiritual expression: I came across to many people who were studying this for the head knowledge, not changing themselves or applying it in their everyday life - and one particularly obnoxious person I came across when organising a conference on queer spirituality sealed my poor opinion of many of these people), and debates may be more open - certainly I have found that in parts of paganism (e.g. the Witches' Voice website debates and points of view, which cover a reasonable range and allow quite a few people a chance to have a say [including me], although the Wild Hunt blog probably covers more controversial aspects), and there have been unsavoury aspects of this in Buddhism, such as the Dalai Lama's banning of the Dorje Shugden sect.

Some of my main affirmations are around me having, manifesting and facilitating more peace, love, joy, respect and honour in the world: these day I ALWAYS qualify that to be the mature version of those characteristics, not the naive, unduly enthusiastic, proselytising versions that have, for instance, tainted too much the New Age movement.

Finally, as another example of "old" vs. mature, I used to do a little judo when I was younger. Whenever people ask me what colour belt I attained, I say "grey" - a very, very, very OLD white belt :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Saturday, 5 February 2011

Post No. 226 - Laya yoga

When I was re-reading Lobsang Rampa's "The Third Eye", I came across the term "laya yoga". When I looked it up on good ol' Wikipedia (see here), it came across as something I had encountered early on in my Tibetan Buddhism phase, which is "generating yourself as the Deity".

This basically means, in my words, putting on an act: "pretending" (remember, these are MY words, my explanations, not that of others) to be what you ultimately wish to be, with a view to
(a) training your unconscious to have automatic reactions of the type you wish, and
(b) you absorb the essence of what you wish to be.

To be able to use this technique without deluding yourself or becoming arrogant requires GREAT objectivity. It is, perhaps, a spiritual version of the "cargo cult" mentality that many of us have towards achieving other things - whether that is the home owner glowing because their home is worth more and they wish to pretend to be rich, the late 20s/early 30s person who is "pretending" to be grown up by having dinner parties (someone I knew a decade ago actually claimed that was her view of herself in that phase of her life: she was just putting on an act of being mature - I thought she was too hard on herself, but maybe she was right .. up to a point?) - which is something associated more with SOME teenagers pretending to be mature by putting on characteristics that they see as meaning one is an adult, such as smoking or a posh accent, or by being familiar with adults, or (and this came - tongue in cheek - from my partner when we were discussing a post I am planning on this) adults trying to be "free and carefree" by putting on the characteristics of being a teenager :)

So .. laya yoga is something that is worth being aware of, but whether you add it to you personal toolbox of transformational methods is subject to a few cautions ...

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Post No. 225 - Earthbound - an explanation / "definition"

I have finally found a good explanation of "earthbound", courtesy of the Spirit Rescuers site: see here.

I have come across this website previously, and consider the explanation of "scene rescue" EXCELLENT, as it is more or less what I often do. I also consider the warnings about bogus guides, and hence the need to CHECK everything you get, equally important (see also "Hungry Ghost"). To quote from the relevant page:
I've always considered these words of Shakespeare's Macbeth to be most apt, (Banquo to Macbeth)
"But 'tis strange, and oftentimes, to win us to our harm,
The instruments of darkness tell us truths,
Win us with honest trifles, to betray's
In deepest consequence."
The site is worth a general browse: the main page is here.

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Wednesday, 2 February 2011

Post No. 224 - Bored to death

I personally consider one of the big problems that people experience on this planet is boredom ... think about it: if you had nothing to do, if you were fed, watered and looked after, and HAD NO INTERESTS, what would you do?

You'd probably just sit around, twiddling your thumbs, slowly going insane ... a bit like zoo animals used to (and, too often, still do).

Of course, we're all supposed to want holidays lazing round in the sun and being served hand and foot (yuck!). The truth is, we NEED a certain amount of stimulation, a certain amount of challenge or good stress to function.

We also need some sort of a sense of purpose. In "olden times", the struggle to survive and religion and family often gave what seemed to be a sense of purpose. A few brave souls took on true freedom, and were shunned for it.

These days, the struggle to have "enough", religion/the economy/politics/entertainment and family often give what seems to be a sense of purpose. A few brave souls take on true freedom, and are shunned for it.

Hmmm. Deja vu, anyone?

There are some deep philosophical issues to consider here, but the main point I actually want to make relates to aging.

If I may be so bold, don't fall into the mistake of acting or feeling old because you are "supposed to" at your age. When my adoptive father retired, he did the "do nothing" option for a while, and almost died. My Mum eventually gave him lists of things to do, and that brought him back to life. Now she has gone, and Dad has little to hold to - he spent the last few uears of Mum's life looking after her, and now there is nothing other than the "reward" that we're supposed to want of little to do. If he had no family contact, he would probably pass away.

That is my next point: have more to your life than just your family!!!

Sure, family is important, but particularly if you've raised kids, have (or find!!) something else to give your life meaning. Once they've left home, don't live your life vicariously through them: have something else to look forward to and engage your attention. When my partner's last child leaves the nest, she is looking forward to completing a Uni degree and starting her own business (actually, she is well on the way and may do so earlier).

When I've read of people who have lived to a good age and been active, it is the "been active" that interests me. The photos of the elderly sitting at a birthday party, with some stupid hat on and surrounded by fake smiles, that does nothing for me - or them. The phtoos of the people over a hundred out walking hills, or hearing about the ex-commando who used to do two hours of weight training plus a walk every day into his late 9s, THAT is what interest me and gives me hope that I could have something to look forward to in my old age.

Don't ossify the elderly, whether it is yourself or someone close to you - even if it means taking some risks.

Let those still living, live!

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Post No. 223 - Manipulation

The day after I started this post, I had been to a nearby bank (one of the few which is open on a Saturday morning), and, as I left, I noticed a car park illegally in a bus zone while a young woman hopped out - I thought, to use the ATM. But no, after I walked all the way to my car, and driven back to that corner (which was on my way), the car was still there, being tooted at by cars who wanted to use the left turn lane (which the bus stop was in), and no sight of the young woman, who evidently had gone into the bank.

Now, as it happens, one the things I wanted to make as a bit of a digression at the start of this post was that I have nothing but contempt for the "I'm young and pretty so you'll bend the rules for me" sort of manipulation I see a few young women (and men) try to use. Neither has, in my opinion, a clue as to what the essence of being their gender is, and yet will try to abuse their sexual attractiveness (or self perceived sexual attraction) to bend the world to favour them over others.

Parking restrictions are there so everyone has a chance to access the shops, banks, etc. Unless you have less ability with respect to mobility (which this young woman did not have), you should be doing the same as everyone else, finding a legal car park and WALKING to the shop/bank/etc.

That young woman was an example of the type of manipulation I wish to write about in this post.

The main point I wanted to cover was someone I knew in the long distant past who had problems - severe problems including anorexia, for quite valid reasons (sexual abuse when she was a child - which is, in my opinion, an under-reported problem, and one made profoundly worse by adults who do not believe the victim, which is a factor that has severely exacerbated several such cases that I know of). So ... this person had problems, for good reason.

However, she, in my opinion, at the time I knew her, was tending towards holding on to the problems. There was a pay-of for her, in that she got more attention as a result. The problem was that, at essence, she wanted someone else to take her pain and her past away.

Sadly, that cannot be done. Apart from situations where wrong has been done to us, there are situations where we have done wrong: neither can be taken away. All we can do is what we can to right the wrongs we have done, ensure those who have done wrong to us learn (constructively - vigilantes don't count!) not to do so and - with help as may be needed - heal ourselves.

This person had the help, including professional help and the love and support of her family (of which I was a part, at that time), but she refused to get better.

There comes a time in our (chronological) maturing where we have to stop relying on our parents and start being independent adults. There are other such moments in life, including the time when stop relying on Deity/"the Universe"/our Guides/etc to "make things right for us", and start to share the load - to carry our fair SHARE of the load.

This does not mean we have to heal ourselves on our own, or do everything without help: it does, though, mean we need to be balanced and objective about when we are receiving help, and when we are bludging or trying to manipulate the Universe.

I posted about this some time ago. As I wrote then:

Going back to "letting things get at you", I sometimes feel that people hold on to hurt to more or less try to blackmail the universe/Deity into showing some sympathy. "Hey universe/Deity, see how much this has hurt me? If you loved me, you wouldn't let this happen - or at least you'd come and give me a massage/tattslotto win/slab/ to make up for it!" Sounds trite, but it is easy to do, and I still find I do that at times. Maybe that is partly because it is easy to mistake sympathy for caring? (Mind you, I don't believe in this "hard love" rubbish: if the interaction between someone who allegedly cares and the recipient of that "care" is ineffective because it is presented in a way that the recipient cannot relate to, then it isn't caring. Did I word that carefully enough to include honest, constructive criticism? Maybe just read my post at

Trying to manipulate the Universe, whether it is by playing on being "pretty", ignoring a law for others' fair opportunity because it is slightly personally inconvenient, or holding on to pain, is a sign of something needing attention. Whether that is a genuine pain, emotional/chronological immaturity, or an inflated ego, I hope the person who has the problem deals with it - for their sake, and for the sake of everyone else around them they are harming.

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Post No. 222 - Personal responsibility

As an initial comment, I have had the recent misfortune to hear a young person using the phrase "Do you know how that makes me feel?" Well, actually ... in the context concerned, it doesn't MAKE you feel anything: you CHOOSE your reactions, albeit through a long history of repetitions and choices. Saying something from normal, routine, everyday life "makes" you feel something is inane rubbish of the Big Brother TV series sort of rubbish.


I'm currently working on a book about "karmic regression-rescue", which is based on the type of past life regression I teach, which incorporates rescue and working with karmic energies (by learning; see here and here for some posts on this). Despite the essence of this method being based on karma, a point that I make in my book is that not everything is due to karma.

Some things happen for learning purposes, or so other people around the situation can be given the opportunity to show caring, and sometimes things happen as a result of people making mistakes. It's not all karmic.

However, some things are due to karma.

Something I have observed in some people is that they may be very reluctant to admit the possibility of them having been "evil" in a past life, no matter how distant. They may well be focused very much on doing good now, and may be doing so effectively, but, in my opinion, they have a very serious, very major flaw in themselves that they need to address.

Note that I am not commenting about a definite knowledge of past wrong doing, as may happen from a past life regression, but rather I am commenting on someone being unable to even admit to the possibility of having done wrong. To me this flaw is a bit like the flaws of those who become leaders without having made mistakes or, to use US vernacular, without having "lost" along the way, as I discussed here.

To put a slightly different take on this, being excessively positive can be as damaging as being excessively negative. There have been a few articles and discussions addressing this. Here is one I found when I started this post, which deals with some of the "toxicity" of the Oprah phenomena:
Where am I heading with all this?

Well, our level of personal responsibility is higher than many of us care to admit, but less than the impossible ideals that some would have us take on. At the risk of making my nearest and dearest cringe (sorry love), perhaps we can consider the "Serenity Prayer" (short version, and preferably a non-Christian version) ... and then give ourselves a kick up the backside!

Love, light, hugs and blessings


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Tags: karma, past life regression, past lives, personal responsibility

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Post No. 221 - Inappropriate reactions to (agape) love

How can there be such a thing as an inappropriate reaction to love?

Well, I trust it is fairly obvious that "inappropriate reactions" in general can occur: as an example, consider a person who is accidentally brushed against by a stranger and, in response, kills the person, their family and everyone connected to the person for three generations. Sounds extreme, doesn't it? Well, fights and serious in jury have happened because of such genuinely accidental contact (usually because the aggressor is actually looking for a fight - which was a near miss for me when I was in my 20s, in the city [in daylight], and someone made a remark along the lines of "what are you looking at" [I feigned deafness, BTW - I like the advice in the TV series Kung Fu on how to handle such threats: "run away" ... :) ])

How about killing or harming someone who expressing a sexual or romantic interest? This sort of reaction ranges from the grossly misnamed "honour killings" in some countries through to the equally dishonourable "panic defence" for killing a gay person - and, as I start writing this, Malawi has just commited the evil act of jailing a gay couple for being who they are.

Inappropriate reactions can and do occur, in a wide range of situations, including those associated with personal (love and/or sexual) relationships. On those, I recently came across the saying that we give people permission to treat us by acquiesing to that treatment [1]: I like that saying, and will spend some time thinking on it.

However, what I want to cover is inappropriate reactions to the "agape" type of love - the "universal goodwill" type of love.

It is a too common problem in some spiritual/personal development classes for participants to consider they are in love with the leader/teacher of that group. In fact, warnings to be wary of this type of situation were mentioned in my Wiccan priestess training recently, which is a course that has been round for a few decades, and the issue made some local media attention here (in Melbourne) back in the 80s. In fact, an acquaintance of mine at the time (I had thought him a friend until I transitioned) who was a journalist asked me about it: he thought the leaders of New Age groups were all runing such groups simply to try and score. I said that wasn't so, but I have to admit that it seems to be a little too prominenet in the modus operandi of some "Wiccan" groups ... to make my position on that clear: being coerced to take part in what is effectively nonconsensual sex is WRONG. Furthermore, you do NOT need to have sex to be initiated into Wicca, and if you're feeling unsafe or uncomfortable in any group, go and find another group!

Now, I've got a little distracted there: let's get back to the point :)

Someone I had the misfortune of working for in the past once took the attitude that, if an incident of discrimination of verbal abuse had happened, but the victim was not upset by it (i.e. the victim "rose above it"), there was no need for any action to be taken.

His whole attitude was a bit along the lines of "it's just a joke - what are you upset for?", an attitude far too common amongst a certain type of Australian. Well, as a matter of principle (ethical, moral, legal AND spiritual), if behaviour is wrong, indulgin in that sort of behaviour needs to result in the appropriate consequences. That is what happens when teaching children, trainign animals, experiencing karma, and in the way we train people to treat us.

Similarly, we one is expressing a universal type of love in some way, one needs to be careful and assess the resultant response, and, if necessary, modify one's behaviour. Let's say you were ... oh, maybe helping a friend who didn;'t have a car temporarily by giving them a lift. If that continues on and on, and the "friend" starts talking about sharing maintenance costs and behaving somewhat disturbingly as if they had an automatic right to access and use your property, then it is time to gently, firmly and directly tell your "friend" that they have started taking advantage of you, and it is time, for their own sake as a mature adult, that they took responsibility for their own situation and, therefore, they can darn well walk to work tomorrow or get PT (public transport).

More generally, if you are helping someone, be careful to pay attention to make sure they don't show signs of mistaking your motivation, being dependent or just becoming a using bludger. By all means help - there is, in general nowhere near enough help given out in this world, but do so responsibly. [2]

Please consider :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings


  1. I understand that this may have originally been said by someone such as Kelly Bryson.
  2. As another example of this, consider the isue of feeding birds. If that leads to them becoming dependent on humans and not migrating as a result, the feeding has become inappropriate ...

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Post No. 220 - Clairvoyance and making/seeking improvements

Some time ago I asked my guides and Higher Self to help me focus on improving my use of my third eye chakra. At the time, my intention was to improve my perception of auras and spirits, possibly even moving that to more objective rather than subjective [1] clairvoyance.

Well, my percpetion of auras is about the same, and my perception of etherics is slightly improved, but the main benefit I seem to have acquired from that is that I am getting better insight into motivation of people.

I have always been reasonably good with this, which can actually be a problem when I tend to "hear" the underlying wish rather than the superficial words, but it has improved. As an example, I am more aware of things like the young person serving me at the local supermarket recently who resented the fact that I didn't fit into their expectation of what a person of my gender "should" be like. (That, incidentally, wasn't a reaction based on my being trans so much as my being a certain type [i.e. butch] of lesbian.) there are two young women at work here whop have similar reactions.

I should make it clear that those reactions are NOT related to the young age of the people concerned: other young people, including young people here at work, have been very accepting of me. Some young people, such as my partner's daughter, are VERY accepting and inclusive of diversity. Nevertheless, some people have problems, problems that they may otherwise hide quite well (as was the case of the person serving me recently), but the attitude problems AND THE ASSOCIATED ENERGY are there, and it can be useful to be aware of those energies to enable better protection [2] of yourself and others.

Oh, this is not just a case of being more paranoid: the increased awareness is also of people who I am surprised by their supportiveness. Unfortunately, that sort of example doesn't make as much of an impact.

I talked recently to my partner about how I approach achieving psychic/spiritual goals generally, and it might be worth repeating the gist of that discussion.

The conversation started with me waffling about how our other soul parts (I prefer the term parallels, so will use that [3] ) more or less form large parts of our unconscious, and we can possibly make achieving change more effective by finding more out about our parallels, as we can then personify the various aspects of our unconscious in much the same way that energies/principles may be personified as deities. This can make it easier for some people to relate to the energies, and - in the case of changing our unconscious - may make it easier for people to relate to, understand and work through the various forms of resistance to change that we have buried in our unconscious.

As an example, suppose one of your parallels had recently been a slave and, in that life, had been worked to death. That entity, who is one part of our unconscious, may now have an aversion to hard work because of that past life. So ... if you are trying to be more disciplined and harder working in achieving your goals, you may find it hard to understand why it is so hard until you communicate (whether telepathically, or via the Higher Self or via meditation or self hypnosis) and explain that there is an important issue of free choice here, and that you choosing to work hard is not related to the parallel having been forced to work themselves to death. You can work, and the parallel can take things easy.

From the parallel's point of view, if they were not spiritually/psychically aware, they may simply find themself crankier or touchier than usual about the subject of levels of work/rest. If they have some awareness, they may have some confusing dreams of wanting to work and not wanting to work at the same time.

At around this point, the question was asked "how do I know who my parallels are?"

Well, in my case I have become aware of them through meditation and automatic writing, but before that I did quite a bit of preparation. I made sure my intent to become aware of my parallels was made known to my Higher Self and, as much as possible, my unconscious. (This can be done by using affirmations - or Lobsang Rampa's version of prayer [see pages 142 to 146 of "The Rampa Story"].)

Next I would view and clear any past lives where I had either reduced people's knowledge, or their ability to gain access to knowledge, or made the knowledge less accurate. As an example, if I had been counting bushels of grain going into a store in ancient Egypt, and had allowed myself to daydream or be distracted, and perhaps as a result there wasn't enough grain stored for times of famine, or I was counting ballast stones onto a boat and similarly got it wrong (possibly with the result hat the ship was lost), then I would have incurred some negative karma. By acknowledging that life, genuinely learning from the mistake (including taking action to make sure I don't repeat the mistake now or in the future), and trying to give reparation in whatever (usually astral or nonphysical) way I can to my victims (e.g. send them healing), then I can reduce the return of that karma, which makes it more likely that I will now get accurate information about my parallels.

The more preparation I do, the better things go :) In this case, after the preparation, I was able to use a series of meditations and automatic writing to gain some awareness of some of my parallels - making sure I actively checked the guidance I received along the way.

Hope this is of some interest and use :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings


  1. See here for instance - I cannot find a good link defining this.
  2. See here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here and here, for instance.
  3. See here for instance.

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Tags: about me, change, clairvoyance, energy work, objective psychism, parallels, preparation, subjective psychism,

First published: Wodansdagr, 2nd February, 2011

Last edited: Wednesday, 2nd February, 2011