Post No. 2,970 - end of year commentary

One of the major problems with this time of year is the expectation of family get togethers. 

Many of those are good, or at least free of disharmony, although maybe prone to wasteful over-consumption, performative falsity, etc, but some are actually problematic - for instance, no-one has to tolerate bigotted nonsense, psychological hostility, forced endurance beyond their limit of socialisation, assaults,etc. - and some families can be prone to such issues. 

The truth is, despite the social pressures and commercial propaganda, socialising is NOT compulsory - especially with people you do not see any other time of the year (and workplace end-of-year functions now come with a plethora of warnings about DEI, trauma, not breaking laws [especially about drink driving], etc - refer to LinkedIn, for instance). 

For those who are neurodivergent, or traumatised, it is important to consider your own well being and limit or avoid (I go with blanket avoidance of anything outside my immediate household and a few other close friends) - and not only for your sake. 

The increased awareness that socialisation pushers can potentially gain from having the fact that family or other get togethers are not always good, or even neutral, is something that could well be of great importance to their long term spiritual evolution/growth. 

Similarly, it can be important for the socially avoidant, such as myself, to understand and acknowledge that others do find such get togethers good and beneficial. 

In a sense, this is largely a case of to each their own - but the warnings that apply to workplace end-of-year functions also apply to other functions.

Take care - be safe (especially on the roads) & well, and enjoy yourself to the extent and in the manner you (legally etc) can. 

Part of my enjoyment will doing the work of this blog - disasters and suffering don’t take a break ... at least I can also celebrate the coming graduation of a young friend in Africa who we have been helping get through a Uni course. 

PS - slightly off topic, but near enough to include:   “‘A pill for every ill’: doctors say Australia overprescribing antidepressants to mask toxic social conditions | Health | The Guardian”   https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2024/dec/21/a-pill-for-every-ill-doctors-say-australia-overprescribing-antidepressants-to-mask-toxic-social-conditions      

PPS - see also   “Christmas was always the hardest time of year for Steve. It was a trigger for past family trauma”   https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/dec/23/christmas-was-always-the-hardest-time-of-year-for-steve-it-was-a-trigger-for-past-family-trauma   “When the holiday season rolls around, the expectation to feel ‘connected’ with loved ones can amplify the sense of isolation”      and   “Domestic and family violence can surge over Christmas. Here's where to get help”   https://www.sbs.com.au/news/article/domestic-and-family-violence-can-surge-over-christmas-heres-where-to-get-help/tv02qd10u   “Experts are warning of an increased risk of domestic and family violence over the festive period, with new Victorian data showing a spike in incidents on Christmas Day”     

PPPS - this end of year period has NOT been a good one for me. The blogging problems will continue for a few more weeks yet. 

PPPPS - the gathering of so many people with the nominal intent of togetherness/sharing/goodwill also makes doing BPM work such as healing easier and more effective

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Post No. 2,859 - Unused candle energy

In my candles I put in qualifiers - directions to my BPM  Guides and others involved that my intent is to respect the free will of people I wish to help. 

As an example, consider this: 

“To the extent that her Higher Self and Highest Will and conscious preferences (if fully informed) allows it,”

So, if that person’s Higher Self considers an unpleasant condition or situation must be experienced, the energy will not go to them. 

So where does it go? 

Well, it just gets added to a general pool of BPM  energy that is available for general use - the sort of thing where, if I am being drained or need an energy boost in a shopping centre and I ask for BPM  energy, some BPM  energy will (if it is for my HSG) be directed my way ... from that general reserve of energy.

The energy is never wasted or lost or casually discarded; it is, to use an old saying, “put aside for a rainy day” ...

There are some other aspects of this that I may cover in a future post. 

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Remember: we generally need to be more human being rather than human doing, to mind our Mӕgan, and to acknowledge that all misgendering is an act of active transphobia/transmisia that puts trans+ lives at risk & accept that all insistence on the use of “trans” as a descriptor comes with commensurate use of “cis” as a descriptor to prevent “othering” (just as binary gendered [men’s and women’s] sporting teams are either both given the gender descriptor, or neither).

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Post No. 2,641 - Disability “accommodations” are just being decent - diagnoses are NOT required!

One of the major actions to come out of disability activism is what is termed “reasonable accommodations” - which refers to changes to enable people with disabilities to be a part of, and function in, particular places.

This is commonly interpreted around access, as someone in a wheelchair is visible, but it goes beyond that to people with non-apparent disabilities, and ensuring the ability to fully be part of places and activities, whether that be work, entertainment, etc. 

As an example, I used to part of the DEI (diversity, equity, and inclusion) committee of a water industry organisation (I left soon after I retired). They began each meeting by asking if there were any reasonable accommodations that meeting participants required, and in one we had a guest who had impaired visibility, and as a result used a screen reader: as that meant any messages put into the chat were read out at the same time others were speaking, they asked if we could defer using the chat function while they were participating. 

Reasonable accommodations are often not something expensive or difficult: they may just require a little informed consideration - or, in my grumpy parlance, being decent.

Sometimes being decent is required even without disability considerations. 

As an example, when we moved into our house, we had a house warming, and two people somehow thought it was acceptable for them to go into my bedroom - which had a cat that was scared of people in it, apart from it being personal space. 

Having the basic manners and decency to respect people’s private, personal space does not require any justification: what was done was a gross invasion of privacy. 

Similar to that, is people rearranging possessions to suit the way the busybody prefers - which, for anyone with a modicum of common sense is clearly absurd! People have preferences based on what suits them best. 

It is like a right handed person setting up a left handed person's workspace in a way that suits the right hander (did you know that the sides of the mouse allocated to functions can be changed to suit handedness?). 

In the context of some disabilities, this video goes into that aspect quite well:

“5 Ways People Try to Help Someone With ADHD That Aren’t Actually Helpful (and What to Do Instead)”   https://youtu.be/3kS3gPMQuP8?si=y8_mcZZfIcvfjCJv    excellent comments about not assuming something that works for you will work for others!!!   (includes an ad)  

I have long preferred being able to see things so I can use them - I hate hiding things in cupboards and wardrobes, and consider that, frankly, amathiac as it means visitors/guests, for instance, do not know what you have in a kitchen, for example, unless you go rifling through all the cupboards. 

Other people respecting that does NOT need a formal diagnosis of a problem in the person whose space it is: it just requires the visitor to be decent, rather than arrogant, self-centred, presumptuous, and amathiac.

Even worse is the anger some people have expressed when I state the truth that I can have a coffee and still go to sleep afterwards. A friend with a degree in genetics told me there is a specific gene which means some people are not affected by caffeine, but are at an elevated risk of cancer if they are carnist and eat overcooked meat. Another possible explanation is the dopamine hit on ADHD brains that enables sleep - as jokingly portrayed at https://www.youtube.com/shorts/cXqCdWoiYk0. 

I’ve often wondered about the anger, and perhaps those people have invested so much of their self image in pretty picture of them being smart about sleep hygiene by avoiding caffeine and doing various other rules that my statement threatens their poorly founded self esteem. 

Bad luck - your flawed worldview does not justify being angry or threatening when it is shown to be flawed by a truth.

I wish to make it quite clear that the requirements around decency also applies to people without disabilities. 

As an example, an appalling (worst ever) manager I worked for in the 80s used to ring us at home when we were ill, so I did same to him - to annoyance of his wife, who I told if she was unhappy then get him to stop doing that to us (she was a doctor, by the way). 

Now, I could see the social expectation in that company was to go along with that managers behaviour (it was supposedly about a [sociopathic] version of “dedication”), which I could equally see was amathiac (see https://youtu.be/NUAGnEvl1_Q?si=kU61g7OkjN5F25C7&t=447) - or, in another word, wrong. 

So I refused to do so ... and was considered aggro for standing up for decency - and stupid (their terminology at the time) for not going along with abuse ... 

Go figure ... 

Neurotypicals should be a lot more reluctant to point that finger ... 

Going back to the concept of accommodations, whether on the basis of disability or just human decency ... anyone who gets irritated at having to accept even minor differences in other people needs to get a grip: that is life. Get over yourself, and start being a decent person, accepting of the rich variety that makes life. 

See also https://gnwmythrsglossary.blogspot.com/2023/09/aspects-of-character-content-warning.html. 

PS - even in places where legal protections against discrimination don't exist, workplace accommodations often result in improved productivity and/or reduced staff turnover/claims for compensation, and those need to ALWAYS be considered against the cost of any accommodations that do involve expense. 

Where anti-discrimination laws exist, you must comply with the laws. If you do so graciously, you are a better human being, in my opinion, than if you do so with a lot of whingeing and complaining.

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