Well, no, actually, they’re not all
evil - but the dangerous assumption that they are predominantly good needs to
be challenged. Assuming that families can ‘always be relied on for … ’, or that
relationship X always means … is wrong. Life is more complex than that.
Families are where a lot of people who haven’t resolved their past
differences get sent to confront those differences. In my case, for instance,
someone I grew up with killed me in a past
life. That sounds like I’m the victim, until you look a little deeper and
realise that it was because I goaded her
(we were soldiers in the US army just after the US Civil War, and I had a higher rank) into doing
that, and as a result she has set out – unconsciously
- to torment me as much in this lifetime. Some of that is karmic, but a point
does get reached where the behaviour goes beyond balancing the scales, and
needs to be confronted. Behaviour I’ve been subjected to in families includes
attempts at control (which is what every
guilt trip ever is; also trying to imply the suffering of suicides or LGBTIQ people is less or even comparable to the discomfort of others in the family who have to adapt to such - as I have had to put up with - is control), assaults of various types including physical and
emotional, and malicious destruction of property (that one was by an ex- and her kids/in-laws). Others have had
worse experience, including child abuse and other forms of abuse.
In fact, in many ways, many families are small scale examples of the
intricacies, power struggles, empire building and double dealing of politics –
yes, the type of behaviour exhibited by elected representatives – and in war
zones, and can be best approached the same way: i.e., lots of positive energy,
clearing negative links and trying to enlighten people, and awareness of the
evil of thinks like the evilness of control. In fact, given the drains that
families can be, I can understand why some religious orders insist on making a
break from families for the purpose of allowing objective assessments of who genuinely
needs help. (In other words, when your
family is whinging about power struggles, that can be a distraction from and weakening
of attempts to help people who have greater, more genuine need for help – such as
the poor and ill. It gets a bit more complicated when members of your family
need help – such as the ill or elderly.)
If your family is not like this, you are truly blessed … so long as
that is truly the case, and you are not being naïve …
If you’re a politician claiming that right wing neochristian views of
family are traditional and aspirational, you are either naïve, stupid or evil.
[2]
Please see here and my post "The
Death of Wikipedia" for the
reasons I now recommend caution when using Wikipedia. I'm also exploring use of
h2g2, although that doesn't appear to be as
extensive (h2g2 is intended - rather
engagingly - to be the Earth edition of "The Hitchhiker's Guide to
the Galaxy").
Love, light, hugs and blessings
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear"; ... aka Bellatrix
Lux? … Morinehtar?
… Would-be drýicgan
... )
My "blogiography" (list of all posts and guide as to how to best use this site - currently not up to date) is here, and my glossary/index is here.
I started this blog to cover karmic regression-rescue (see here and here), and it grew ... See here for my group mind project, here and here for my "Pagans for Peace" project (and join me at 9 PM on Sunday, wherever you are, to meditate for peace), and here for my bindrune kit-bag. I also strongly recommend learning how to flame, ground and shield, do alternate nostril breathing, work with colour, and see also here and be flexible.
- One size does NOT fit all.
- Don't be mediocre - seek to excel.
- Gnwmythr's Stropping Strap: Occam's Razor only works if the simplest solution is actually recognised as being the simplest, rather than the one that best fits one's bigotries being labelled 'simplest'.
- Our entire life experience, with all the many wondrous and varied people, places and events in it, is too small a sample for statistical reliability about Life.
- May the world of commerce and business be recognised to be a servant, not a master, of the lives of people.
- Ban the dream interpretation industry!
- A home is for living in, not feeling, becoming or being rich or a “better” class than others.
- Being accustomed to interacting via certain rules makes those rules neither right nor universal.
- Like fire to the physical, emotions to the soul make a good servant, and a bad master.
- Expertise at intimacy and emotional happiness is generally not the same thing as spiritual growth.
- Any person, male or female, who has neither a serious health issue, dependents nor an agreement about study. yet expects their partner to work to support them, is, spiritually speaking, little more than a parasite.
- The means shape the end.
- BPLF restraint of uncooperatives is NOT an opportunity for revenge or getting even - even unconsciously.
- As words can kill, the right to freedom of speech comes with a DUTY to be as well-informed, objective and balanced as you can be.
- My favourite action movie of all time is "Gandhi", although I've recently come across "Invictus" and might put that one in to that category. However, I loathe the stereotypical action movie - and, for similar reasons, I loathe many dramas, which are often emotionally violent, more so in some cases than many war films.
- All of the above - and this blog - could be wrong, or subject to context, perspective, or state of spiritual evolution ...
Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be
stronger [people].
John F. Kennedy (who was
quoting 19th Century Episcopal Bishop Phillips Brooks)
Jesus loves you. Odin wants you to grow up.
We make our decisions. And then our decisions turn around and make us.
F.W. Boreham
Females, get over 'cute'. Get competent. Get trained. Get capable. Get over 'cute'. And those of you who are called Patty and Debby and Suzy, get over that. Because we use those names to infantalise females – we keep females in their 'little girl' state by the names we use for them. Get over it. If you want to be taken seriously, get serious.
Jane Elliott
The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good [people] to do nothing.
(based on
writing by) Edmund Burke
The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.
Albert Einstein
We didn't inherit the Earth from our ancestors, we only borrowed it from our children
Antoine De Saint-Exupéry
Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
True compassion is more than flinging a coin to a beggar; it is not haphazard and superficial. It comes to see that an edifice which produces beggars needs restructuring.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Too much and too long, we seem to have surrendered community excellence and community values in the mere accumulation of material things. Our gross national product ... if we should judge America by that -- counts air pollution and cigarette advertising, and ambulances to clear our highways of carnage. ... Yet the gross national product does not allow for the health of our children, the quality of their education, or the joy of their play. It does not include the beauty of our poetry or the strength of our marriages; the intelligence of our public debate or the integrity of our public officials. It measures neither our wit nor our courage; neither our wisdom nor our learning; neither our compassion nor our devotion to our country; it measures everything, in short, except that which makes life worthwhile."
Robert F. Kennedy 1968
There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.
John F. Kennedy
If we could change ourselves, the
tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so
does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see
what others do. (Often degraded to “Be
the change you want to see in the world” – see here)
Gandhi
Tags: control, evil, family, karma,
First published: Thorsdagr, 22nd May, 2014
Last edited (excluding fixing typo's and other minor matters): Thursday, 22nd May, 2014
