Post No. 150 - A word both over-used and under-used: sorry

There is a massive need for apologies to heal the hurts - great and small - of this world ... a need both on the personal level for those who have done harm to take responsibility for their ill deeds, and for nations, groups and the mighty to give heed to the harm done in their course of their causes.

So ... there is a great need for sensible, meaningful sorrow, to begin the forgiving and grieving, and the passing through the anger, that leads to mutual healing of victim and harmer.

In other words, "sorry" is a word which is sadly under-used.

And yet, "sorry" is also a word which is greatly over-used. In this latter context, I have in mind the immature, or manipulative, who flippantly trot this word out with an expectation that all will be forgiven, and they will be allowed to continue their transgressions, their laziness, their attempted manipulations.

Well, unfortunately, it isn't always so.

If you jump - without a prachute or anything else helpful - off an eight storey tall building, it doesn't matter how much you scream out "sorry" on the way down, you're most probably going to die, be maimed horribly, or at least be serisouly injured. [1] In the same way, if you're in a car that you've mishandled, and are sliding irrevocably up a road towards a pole, it doesn't matter how much you scream out sorry, unless you regain control of the car, you have the same choices. If you've done some stupid or irresponsible in the psychic areas of life, unless it is fairly minor, you're choices are to fix the fault, or suffer the consequences.

That includes not practising techniques, or not practising them enough, or not being genuine in your practice. It's got nothing to do with other people's opinions, or manipulating your parents when you were a teenager, or trying to avoid going to jail when you commit a crime and get caught: it's a fundamental law of reality.

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr

Notes:

1. There are people who have fallen thousands of feet without a parachute and survived (see here), and I understand somone once tried to commit suicide by jumping off a tall building and was blown back in onto a ledge a few floors down without significant injury. So I cannot write that someone in such circumstances will definitely die ...

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Tags: personal responsibility, emotions,

First published: Saturday 4th September, 2010

Last edited: Saturday 4th September, 2010