Post No. 3,441 - A belated acknowledgement: the impact of childhood (and adult) trauma on psychic accuracy

In situations that matter, my psychic accuracy is actually pretty good - but those sorts of situations are not the ones you find in online surveys aimed at measuring how psychic you are, and I did one of those this morning. 

One of the exercises involved predicting which of several photos would appear in a window, and while doing that, I noticed that I often had two impressions, and chose the wrong one more often than not. And at that point, although there were other factors which I will also mention, one of the outcomes of being raised in the 60s by parents who believed in discipline (rarely physical) and of being an undiagnosed AuDHDer at school and in social situations, was that I had wound up with a crippling self doubt which often results in me second guessing myself, and the second guesses are often wrong - and I still have that, despite my personal growth work, perhaps partly because of subsequent trauma/complex trauma/PTSD from various circumstances (especially bigotry). 

It has been quite a few years since I acknowledged that, and i suspect I have just opened up a whole can of work for myself ... and I'm not sure it is solvable in this life. 

Ah well - I will discuss it with my counsellor 😊 

 

The other factors are the effects of disinterest on the ADHD brain - or, more accurately, the ADHD parts of my brain. 

Having just read 

“Scientists Just Confirmed What I’ve Been Saying for Thirty Years About the ADHD Brain”   https://www.hunterinafarmersworld.com/p/scientists-just-confirmed-what-ive   “And boredom, for the Hunter brain, is not a character flaw. It is a physiological state, as real and as measurable as hunger”    

I am now aware that boredom - and, I suggest, disinterest - cause the ADHD brain to more or less “go to sleep”, and I could actually notice that today as I worked my way through the online questionnaire. 

With that multiple choice of photo exercise, when I relaxed, kept the brain engaged, and took my time, my accuracy improved (and I also noticed that sometimes the two options I found myself considering might for instance, both be of birds [with no other bird photos available], or both share a distinct feature).  

When I was learning in the 80s, I was taught “always go with your first impression”, but I know from other times I have tested my sensing (e.g., with word puzzles that I like), the second impression is often more likely to be correct. 

And following this morning’s realisation, if I am self sabotaging myself, that would explain why I find determining differences in energy (to identify external, malicious influences, as opposed to internal or external beneficial influences) impossible: both may have came from me ... 

It's a challenge to find a solution to this - the survey I did was part of a course aimed at improving confidence in such matters, so I may find a solution there, but, if not, I'll have a long term project ...  

Possible flaws 

Where I can, I will try to highlight possible flaws / issues you should consider: 

• there may be flawed logical arguments in the above: to find out more about such flaws and thinking generally, I recommend Brendan  Myers’ free online course “Clear and Present Thinking”;  
• I could be wrong - so keep your thinking caps on, and make up your own minds for yourself.
  

 

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Post No. 3,433 - Guest post from Jennifer Scott of SpiritFinder: How to Build Lasting Confidence and Embrace Your Best Life Now

This week we have a post from a returning guest:   Jennifer Scott, of Spiritfinder.org

Please enjoy this excellent article, and consider contacting Jennifer to learn more. 

 

How to Build Lasting Confidence and Embrace Your Best Life Now 

Spiritually curious individuals exploring paganism, witchcraft, and psychic work often carry a quiet confidence gap: the pull to trust their gifts, paired with self-esteem obstacles shaped by psychological abuse, social discrimination, and spiritual misinformation. Even when devotion is real, doubt can sound like “maybe it’s all in my head,” and fear of judgment can shrink daily choices into constant second-guessing. Confidence challenges like these aren’t a personal failing, they’re a sign that the personal growth journey is asking for stronger inner footing and clearer ethics. What opens next is a grounded way to reclaim spiritual empowerment so living your best life stops feeling like a distant version of self. 

What Grounded Confidence Really Means 

Grounded confidence is not bravado or “high vibes” on command. It is what happens when your mind, body, and spirit tell the same truth, so your choices feel steady instead of forced. A self-trust foundation grows through follow-through, and the fulfillment of their commitments becomes the quiet backbone of transformational confidence. 

This matters because spiritual work asks for discernment, not performance. When you trust yourself, you can set cleaner boundaries, practice stronger ethics, and stop outsourcing your intuition to louder voices. You also recover faster after mistakes because your worth is not on trial. 

Try 10 Confidence Boosters Today (Body, Mind, Spirit, Career) 

Confidence gets “real” when your body, mind, and spirit all get a vote, and when your choices match your values. Pick one idea from each area below and do it today; stacking small wins is how self-trust stops being a concept and becomes a felt experience. 

1. Choose a 12-minute confidence workout (strength + posture): Set a timer and do 3 rounds of 8–12 squats, 8–12 incline push-ups, and a 30–45 second plank, resting 30 seconds between moves. End with 60 seconds of “mountain pose” or a strong stance, shoulders down and chest open. Strength training gives you fast, measurable proof you can do hard things, and posture cues your nervous system toward steadiness. 
2. Add one “steady-energy” plate rule (nutrition you’ll actually keep): For one meal today, build a simple plate: a palm of protein, a fist of colorful plants, and a thumb of fat, then drink a full glass of water before you eat. If you practice kitchen witchery, stir clockwise and name what you’re feeding, focus, stamina, patience. Balanced blood sugar often looks like balanced emotions, which makes it easier to trust your instincts. 
3. Do a 7-minute breath-and-body check-in (mind + emotion regulation): Sit comfortably, inhale for 4, exhale for 6, and scan from forehead to feet, no fixing, just noticing. When your mind wanders, return to one physical sensation, like hands warming or the weight of your hips in the chair. Research on mindfulness-based programs suggests they can improve body awareness, which supports calmer decisions when life feels loud. 
4. Try a 3-card “evidence of me” reading (spirit without spiraling): Pull three tarot or oracle cards labeled What I handled well, What I’m learning, and What I need to ask for. Write two sentences per card, and end with one practical action you’ll take in the next 24 hours. This keeps divination grounded: you’re not outsourcing power, you’re collecting mirrors for your inner wisdom. 
5. Train one psychic skill with a timer (clair-sense reps, not pressure): Choose one: psychometry with a friend’s object, aura-color impressions, or a “who’s texting?” intuition drill. Do 10 minutes, record guesses and outcomes, and give yourself a neutral score like “hits/misses/unclear.” Confidence grows when you treat intuition like a craft, ethical, testable, and improved through honest feedback. 
6. Build a values-to-career map (direction that matches your ethics): Write three values (e.g., autonomy, service, creativity), three strengths, and three energizing interests, then connect them into two possible roles or niches. A solid prompt is the checklist idea of career path and growth goals, because clarity comes faster when you name what matters and what you’re building toward. Finish by choosing one next step: one informational interview, one training module, or one updated resume bullet. 
7. Optional “confidence-through-training” plan (advanced nursing example): If you’re aiming toward an advanced healthcare role, draft a simple path: prerequisites you still need, application timeline, weekly study blocks, and how you’ll pay for it. An online grad route can work well when you pair structure with support, consider a weekly accountability check-in, skills practice at work, and a clear boundary around rest to avoid burnout. The point isn’t to rush; it’s to make your growth feel inevitable through consistent, bite-sized commitments, like mapping a family nurse practitioner degree alongside your weekly plan. 

Habits That Keep Confidence Rooted and Real 

These habits turn “I hope I can” into “I know I can” by giving your spiritual practice a steady container: ethics, nervous-system care, and honest reflection. For spiritually curious folks exploring paganism, psychic work, and healing, repetition builds trust without requiring perfection, and habit formation took an average 55 to 66 days can help you pace your expectations. 

Candle-and-Commitment Minute 

• What it is: Light a candle and name one brave action you will take today. 
• How often: Daily. 
• Why it helps: A clear vow makes confidence measurable and harder to wiggle out of. 

Two-Question Journal Check 

• What it is: Write: “What did I handle?” and “What needs kinder boundaries?” 
• How often: Three times weekly. 
• Why it helps: You collect proof, not vibes, and your growth feels earned. 

Five-Sense Grounding Reset 

• What it is: Name five things you sense, then relax your jaw and shoulders. 
• How often: Daily, especially after stress. 
• Why it helps: It settles your body so your intuition reads clearer. 

Consent-First Psychic Practice 

• What it is: Ask permission, set a time limit, and close with a simple cleanse. 
• How often: Weekly. 
• Why it helps: Ethical structure builds trust and reduces spiritual anxiety. 

Skill-and-Heart Micro-Review 

• What it is: List one technical skill and one relational skill you strengthened. 
• How often: Weekly. 
• Why it helps: Confidence grows when technical expertise and care develop together. 

Common Confidence Questions, Answered 

Q: What are some immediate daily habits I can start to boost my confidence and motivation?
A: Choose one tiny “proof action” each morning: a two-minute tidy, a short walk, or sending one honest message. Keep a visible “wins” note where you log what you completed, not how you felt. If you’re spiritually inclined, add a brief altar check-in and speak your intention out loud to practice steady self-presentation. 

Q: How can I create a simple routine that helps me manage stress and stay focused on my goals?
A: Use a three-part rhythm: ground your body, pick one priority, then set a clear stop time. A simple breath count plus one task list item can be enough to reduce decision fatigue. Treat rest as part of the plan so your nervous system stays cooperative. 

Q: What practical steps can I take to overcome feelings of being stuck or overwhelmed?
A: Shrink the goal until it feels almost silly, then repeat it daily for a week. Add gentle “micro-exposures,” like practicing your introduction to a mirror or posting one low-stakes comment, since exposure therapy is designed to help people overcome problems tied to fear and avoidance. Ask a trusted friend to witness the step, not evaluate it. 

Q: How can incorporating mindfulness or spiritual practices support my journey to living my best life?
A: Mindfulness helps you notice the moment your inner critic takes the wheel, so you can choose a calmer response. Spiritually, simple ethics like consent, clear boundaries, and “no reading without permission” build self-trust fast. When you practice small, honest rituals, your confidence becomes anchored in integrity rather than mood. 

Q: What resources or support does your service offer for someone looking to start a wellness or personal growth routine?
A: Look for support that includes gentle accountability, clear ethical guidelines, and community spaces where beginners are respected. It also helps to have practical self-presentation tools, like creating a printable poster to market yourself for sharing an offering, class, or boundary statement without overthinking it. The best support should meet you where you are and keep your steps small, doable, and consistent. 

Making Confidence a Sacred Practice in Everyday Life 

When self-doubt flares up, it can feel like every intuitive nudge must be proved, explained, or hidden to be safe. The way through isn’t louder self-promotion; it’s compassionate self-reflection, mindful self-acceptance, and a steady choice toward empowered living, one small, honest step at a time. With that approach, confidence becomes something practiced, not something earned, and personal growth motivation starts to return even on ordinary days. Confidence is built by showing up gently, consistently, and in alignment with what you know is true. Choose one brave action and make it sacred: one simple confidence commitment you can keep this week. This matters because steady self-trust creates resilience, clearer boundaries, and deeper connection to your path and community. 

 

 

Post No. 375 - Various

I just ran my first workshop on Talismanic Tetrahedrons yesterday - and am pleased that my customers were al very pleased.

Recently I went to our local supermarket to do some shopping (a common enough occurrence :) ), and while I was there I heard some young teenagers talking, clearly sounding each other out - from a safe distance of 30 or 40 metres! When I glanced over, one young woman was casually sashaying over, using an obviously very well rehearsed sashay, and the whole scene reminded me of my time as a teenager, when having the right "image" was considered "vital". No thought about why one should have an image rather than being oneself ... Fortunately, I was too stupid to get into all that, so just chose to be myself. It's a pity other young people don't have the courage or integrity or HONESTY to do the same.

Moving on to other matters, in a conversation recently, the term "moral indignation" turned up. Now, I believe in making assessments of right and wrong - for instance, I consider murder, theft, torture, etc wrong, and make no apology for that judgement. But I seem to share some of the dispassion about matters that I finding in the descriptions of the "northmen" in Michael Crighton's book "The Eaters of the Dead", and believe that such decisions should be reached through things like meditation. Having said that, there are things I consider outrageous, and yet, in much the same way gossip can be a evil, underhanded attack on people, I am finding that there is a version of "moral indignation" - and especially the EXPECTATION of sharing the same values - that can be as evil, or even more so, than the situation the moral indignation is claimed to be about. I won't go into more detail than that at the moment, as it relates to a currently ongoing situation, but this is a matter on which I am currently reviewing my views, just as I in the - not too distant - past revised my hardline view on criminality.

More reading

• TopTen Hints for Survival for a Highly Sensitive Person: http://spiritrescue.ning.com/forum/topics/top-10-survival-tips-for-the-highly-sensitive-person-hsp;

• Details on what an aura consists of: http://spiritrescue.ning.com/forum/topics/what-does-an-aura-consist-of;

• "No battle lines in the cancer ward", 24th March, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/no-battle-lines-in-the-cancer-ward-20120323-1vpi4.html;

• "Love, not war, says Israel to Iran blog", 23rd March, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/world/love-not-war-says-israel-to-iran-blog-20120322-1vmry.html;

• " 'Flexibility' is what some call it; others say 'job insecurity' ", 21st March, 2012: http://www.theage.com.au/executive-style/management/flexibility-is-what-some-call-it-others-say-job-insecurity-20120320-1vhwl.html;

• http://spiritrescue.ning.com/forum/topics/ouija-board-blamed-for-stabbing;

• This is - and I am aware of my comments above regarding moral indignation, and dare to make a judgement that this justifies the response - utterly outrageous: "Employers ask job seekers for Facebook passwords", 20th March, 2012: http://news.theage.com.au/breaking-news-technology/employers-ask-job-seekers-for-facebook-passwords-20120320-1vhnp.html.

More speculations

I found this a bit surprising, in terms of who the awards went to, but it is a start that the awards have been started by someone: http://www.ethisphere.com/wme/.


Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")

Tags: about me, attitudes, confidence, health, peace, society,

First published: Sunnudagr, 25th March, 2012

Last edited: Sunday, 25th March, 2012

Post No. 215 - Confidence

I want to post about something which I may have mentioned in a recent post, but it is something I consider important enough to highlight in a separate post: confidence in one's guidance.

Assuming one has done all the necessary development work to be able to check psychic impressions you receive (and if you doubt the need for that, do a little research into "Hungry Ghosts", which, sadly, appears to be what claimed Joe Fischer [see here]), then it may become an issue to begin believing in yourself, your ability to get guidance and the (checked [1]) guidance you receive.

As an illustration of that, my partner and I were looking for a place an hour or so drive away from where we live. We had planned on using a handheld navigator, but lost the signal. So, we drove up and down the street we knew we had to go onto, looking for the side street where the address we were looking for was, and then decided to go and buy a local map. Just before we turned round to do that, I had the impression to turn up one [particular street ... but didn't: I let logic win, and we went of a got the map ... and found that had I turned up that side street, we would have found the place we were looking for.

I am now very disappointed that I didn't act on that guidance: had I done so, it would have been very affirming. As it was, by not doing so, I created a (partly karmic, partly reluctance on the part of guides who have been spurned) block to getting more guidance.

Ah well, we live and learn ...

I have heard, at an early stage of my psychic development of someone using guidance to find a place. This particular person was a member of the group I learned at, who had moved, but had not been able to contact him to tell him of the new address. he turned up at the old address, found the group had moved, and threw a challenge to his guides. They responded by guiding to the new address - which was not too far away.

So ... if you can check your guidance when that guidance is credible and not counter to common sense, consider acting on it :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr

Notes:

1. See here, here, here and here for some posts with some of my thoughts with some relevance to this.

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Tags: guidance, guides, checking, protection, confidence,

First published: Frysdagr, 28th January, 2011

Last edited: Friday, 28th January, 2011