Now, this does not mean "don't try", or "don't try to learn from mistakes and do better", but it does mean "don't over-invest emotional energy and self esteem in obtaining a particular outcome". After all, one cannot guarantee either success or failure [1], owing to such vagaries as karma, other people's free will, etc. If you build your self image on being X, or being able to do Y or accomplish Z, if any circumstances occur when you can't X, Y or Z, you risk damaging your self perception - after all, you don't have to DO anything, or BE anything in particular to be worthy of love ... [2]
As I mentioned, none of this should be taken as meaning "don't try" or "don't care", it's just a case of being balanced in your perspective on your trying and caring.
Rudyard Kipling wrote something about this in his poem "If-" [3]
"If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster and treat those two imposters just the same"
Worth a thought? It's certainly good practice for considering the ups and downs of a sequence of lives ...
Love, light, hugs and blessings
Gnwmythr
Notes:
- Oh - you'd like an example of how one can fail to fail? Well, I know one poor, sad fellow many years ago who decided to commit suicide by car, got himself drunck, got up to high speed and tried to drive into a tree - and missed (owing to a lack of visual focus resulting from aformentioned drunkenness). I've written that a bit lightheartedly, but it really was - as with all such episodes - incredibly sad. Unfortunately, I can't even say "it all turned out OK", as he moved shortly after that and I lost contact with him.
- Although I like to manifest my love for others/creation by trying to be/do "good" ...
- I like the link to the Bhagavad Gita in the Wikipedia article on this poem.
Tags: attitudes, self esteem, caring, love, guides, balance, equanimity,
First published: Manadagr, 17th January, 2011
Last edited: Monday, 17th January, 2011
