Post No. 257 - Meditation and the Interaction of Souls

When I was younger, in my 20s (and getting frustrated with people thinking I wasn't yet even 18 ... ah, those were the days - in the last millenia!), I competed in a national sailing championships. I didn't do all that well for a whole range of reasons, but one incident occurred during one light weather race that is a good start to this post.

Basically, as we were sailing in a light wind, someone I knew a little, who was crewing in another boat, laughed. At that moment, a phrase from a book written by Richard Bach (possibly "Illusions"?), who also wrote Jonathon Livingston Seagull, came to mind. The phrase was, more or less, that we are the otters of the Universe - fun loving, playing creatures. As the phrase was comprehended by me, my eyes rolled up into my head, leaving only the whites showing, and I became aware of what I was led to believe was the soul of everyone in the boats - which I perceived as a large sphere of light around six feet (say ... two metres) in diameter.

Nowadays, I would probably describe this as having become aware of everyone at the level of their Soul Star chakra.

Speaking of nowadays, something I have started doing recently, as part of my meditation, is becoming aware of the interactions between people at levels other than physical/astral.

Quite a few people are aware of what is going on in terms of the motivations of people (e.g., "he/she/ze is a go-getter and climber in the workplace"), but I have started looking at a "deeper" (higher frequency) level, and seeing things like ... person X is trying to overcome some insecurities which show on the lower left bound of their Soul, or person Y is learning how to be successful at manifesting/developing something good in this world, and so on.

What I am finding is that this gives me a more meaningful and relevant way of interacting with other people. I find that that, in turn, leads to a perception of souls working together with the energy of that level of reality to create (or change?) things.

It is also a useful reminder that ultimately our primary stream of consciousness will exist on a level which is basically just us and energy.

Something to contemplate :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")

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Tags: energy work, interactions, Soul, psychism, psychic development, levels, meditation, purpose,

First published: Tysdagr, 26th April, 2011

Last edited: Tuesday, 26th April, 2011

Post No. 256 - Family of choice

I've recently had the advantages of what I term "family of choice" emphasised to me again, in terms of "family of choice" being genuinely more caring, and less concerned about counting occasions and comparing how well one has marked those, or how much attention and favours one has conferred, rather than simply being, and enjoying the shared existence of this world.

I know others consider blood family to be more reliable than friends: I feel sad for those people, who have clearly not had the blessing I have had in my family of choice (which does include some blood and adoptive family).

I also feel sorry for those people who have had truly horrendous experiences with family - such as those who have been abused as children.

It all goes to show, in my opinion, that we should treasure those relationships which are good, and not pressure or destroy them by expectations, including the expectation that certain relationships should be such-and-such. If the relationship naturally is genuinely two way, wonderful: if it isn't, let it quietly pass, and move on.

PS - I think it is high time the worlds of commerce and the law accepted the reality that friends - people who do not fit the commonly used definition of "family" - can be of massive importance to our lives and wellbeing. If one of my clsoe friends dies, I may well need more compassionate leave than I would if some of my family (e.g. uncles, aunts, cousins) died. If one of my close friends is ill or in need of help, I count that on a par to my close family members (e.g. sisters, parents, partner) being ill, and may need carers leave. (Also, I find it very distubring when economists get consulted on issues that they should not be, issues involving human rights, for instance.)
Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")

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Tags: family, attitudes, friends,

First published: Tysdagr, 26th April, 2011

Last edited: Friday, 29th April, 2011

Post No. 255 - Cities, Ley Lines and Trees

I recently read the transcript of an ABC programme about pagans; in that, someone (I think the President) of the Pagan Awareness Network was talking about why they had chosen the location that they hold their public full moon rituals, and a key part of that related to the flow of energy that goes with movements of people - in other words, being close to several major transport routes (public and private) was, more or less, a modern equivalent of the old idea of ley lines.

Interesting - sad, in some ways, as it means we have moved so far away from the natural world that we are a part of that we become more significant than our native world. Nevertheless, change is the only constant in the Universe, so there comes a time when it may be better to "go with the flow".

For me personally, I would rather be somewhere peaceful, and full of natural energies - as I am while doing the first draft of this post, at a house in regional Victoria. Others, however, prefer more "excitement" (I could put my tongue in my cheek and use the word "frenetic", but I'll save that for when I grumble about how the pace of life is generally faster than it was "in my day") - particular if they are young adults, at the stage where they are exploring interactions with other adults.

In fact, I like to build structures that complement and work with natural energies wherever I live - such as labyrinths. Or I work with crystals ...

However, for central business districts, which these days tend to be the hubs at the centre of a wheel of spokes made of roads, railways and development (Melbourne even now plans for "green wedges", as they've decided to give up fighting developers - who appear to have been responsible for losing the green belts Melbourne was supposed to have a century or so ago), natural energies are going to struggle, or be swamped or overloaded with the stress, anxiety, selfishness, freneticism, superficiality, predatoriness, and other such energies that accumulate in such places because of the way people in many parts of the world conduct business these days.

Well, what do we do about this?

Well, I know of Druids having placed a large stone in a position to help the flow of energies along a motorway in Britain which is supposed to have reduced the number of accidents there. Such henges could, perhaps, be of some benefit in cities, but I would be concerned whether they would be adequately protected, or whether they would be eroded by frequent vandalism/disrespect. I think the stone I referred to was not in an obvious or publicly accessible place, so it was protected.

I know of some buildings (skyscrapers) that have large crystals in the foyer. Potentially good, but does anyone look after those? The ones I've seen are of such a size that they would need a group of people to act as carers - and the carers would need rest from time to time as well, as during the day the vast numbers of people in the building would often be busy generating negative energy ...

Having cities on rivers can potentially help, if the cities have enough flow to carry away the negative energy, but then one has to think of what happens to the energy: where is it going to be dissipated or dissolved or in some way "made good"? What makes this worse is when the river is disrespected, and allowed to become polluted. (I found the River Torrens that Adelaide is on to be a slow, stagnant river, full of negativity and not much use for cleansing, when I was there a few years ago.)

I would like to see city councils stop trying to get as much as possible on their land (which means they get more rates) and ensure that EVERY skyscraper has a zone around it that is planted out with well maintained trees. Trees can act as light pumps, but they have other benefits that I have posted about previously as well. If every tall building had a zone of trees for a distance of between one ninth and one sixth of the height of the building around it, I think people would find the workplace cultures that developed in the building would be less gossipy, less backstabbing, less bullying, less blame-focused, and less vicious in every way. They might even become pleasant to work in ...

The emerging trend towards "green roofs" could be of some help, but those trees lack direct contact with Mother Earth (the earth they are planted in provides some indirect contact, though) and are too inadequate in extent for most of the multi-storey buildings I've experienced. Having parkland nearby can be good, provided it has lots of trees, or flowing rivers or a large, clean lake.

By the way, I have worked in a fifty storey building (and have spent a couple of decades working in a ten storey building), so there is some practical experience in this assessment.

This also applies to multi-storey residential buildings. Although they tend to have gardens around them, they don't have as many trees, in my experience as they need (and there are many other things wrong with such developments, but others have researched and written about those aspects ... ).

Ideally we would all become so aware that no-one would have the temerity or crassness to try and build such monstrosities. Sadly, that is a long way off, and it behoves those of us who do have such awareness to consider what we can do to make this world a better place, and concentrated human misery in cities across the world is one such task for us to work on. It is hard to fight the entrenched and domineering interests of the commercial and financial sectors, especially as it is run by people who are too often (but not all) lacking in spiritual or psychic awareness, but large scale public movements have been successful in the past, and maybe that is exactly what is needed now.

I've written to councils about various issues including planting more trees. Maybe we all need to write to councils about trees, clean rivers and space for fresh air and light between the proposed skyscrapers ....

Good luck if you choose to do so: going by experience, you will need it - but I or others working to make this a better place will be there, standing metaphorically (or astrally, in some cases!) behind your shoulder :)

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")

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Tags: trees, energy work, negative energy, cities, urban living, ley lines, energy flows,

First published: Tysdagr, 26th April, 2011

Last edited: Tuesday, 26th April, 2011

Post No. 254 - Rescuing uncooperatives

When I I learned how to do spirit rescue [1], one of the basic classifications of those who are earthbound I was taught is into cooperative, and uncooperative.
Cooperatives are those souls who, although they may be upset, frustrated or even angry, are basically not against passing over "in principle". For more information on this, see the information I use to teach people here. This is the sort of entity that is most commonly covered by shows such as "Ghost Whisperer" - although some episodes get into less cooperative entities. (I still find that show rather frustrating to watch: I will labour through it all one day, I suppose ...)
On the other hand, uncooperatives are enjoying being earthbound - whether that is because they are indulging in revenge or some form of getting even, perhaps because they have found they can influence people so easily (see the scene in the film "Always" where Richard Dreyfuss' character snaps at a cleaner about "looking funny", thereby changing the poor unfortunate's mood and day) and are now getting back at everyone who dumped on them while they were alive, or perhaps they were always a nasty character, and have just given their nastiness full reign. They have an awareness and intent that cooperatives don't, and they may well be, to use counselling parlance, "challenging".
They will be aware of your personal sensitivities (e.g., concerns about appearance, lack of confidence, internalised homophobia, unresolved gender identity, relationship uncertainties, etc, etc, etc), and actively use them to try to aggravate or upset you, or to disrupt the group that you are working in. This can be bad enough when it is done aggressively, but the uncooperatives who do this under a facade of niceness are - to me - far more scary.
This was also mentioned in the book "Spirit Releasement Therapy", by William Baldwin.
I gave a fairly basic flow sheet on rescuing uncooperatives at my other blog (see here). The essence of this is:

• one has to use an energy, object, thought form, (controlled or slave, in the case of an uncooperative's unpleasantry) entity, etc (the general term I was taught to use is "unit", and that is what I will continue to use now) in order to manifest something - for example, to be intimidating, one has to have and be willing and able to use intimidation units (I was going to use anger as an example, but I have pointed out previously that anger is not an emotion - it is an expression of something else, so I better not shoot myself in the foot :) );


• if those units are taken away, it is - more or less - not possible (or certainly more difficult) to manifest that emotion/effect.

So ... let's say there is an uncooperative entity who it has been decided (by that entity's Higher Self, and/or the guides/Higher Selves of the victims of that entity) that enough is enough, and it is time for the entity to either pass over, or at least be removed from a situation where people still alive or earthbound can be influenced by that entity. (There is a lot of checking that goes into agreeing that such is the case, by the way ... an enormous amount of checking, cross-checking and re-checking - makes the system of appeals etc in the court system look pale by comparison ... )
In that case, if the entity cannot be persuaded to become cooperative (a task often easier for those with counselling skills or extensive life experience), the entity will basically be captured, isolated from his/her/hir back-up/support, and the units being used by the entity cleared (see here, and at various places in this blog, including here) until the entity becomes cooperative enough to pass over.
Sounds simple, doesn't it?
Well, that's where the "challenging behaviour" comes in. Those undertaking this work may be provoked, taunted, mocked, etc, etc, etc - and there are cases, where the restraint is applied by bringing the entity into a medium [2] (which is NOT covered by my flow chart, which only addresses "mental" rescue), that the medium (if in deep enough a trance) may need to be physically restrained. I'm generally too much of a sticky beak to be a deep trance medium - I want to hang around and see what is going on, and see what I can learn, but I have been in the situation where my body was restrained - that actually led to some encouragement to back off out of the situation, actually, as I didn't particularly want that sort of sensation :)
Actually, there can be considerable benefits for a trance medium in volunteering to do rescue of uncooperatives. These include paying off negative karmic debt by doing good and by experiencing something unpleasant for a good cause, contributing to the amount of selflessness in the world (it takes quite a bit of generosity to allow others to use one's body ... also, look up tonglen), and, perhaps most importantly, by having a chance to see what units one may have in one's aura that one isn't aware of.
If you are, perhaps, always pleasant and cooperative, stepping out and having an entity come in who is snarling and snapping and aggressive is a shock: it can be a greater shock to notice that the entity is actually using YOUR unpleasantness units. This then gives considerable motivation to examine oneself and clear negative units, past lives and acknowledge & learn lessons that one needs to that one has been, perhaps, suppressing ... before next week's session :) My big issue that I found out about was complacency ... I already knew I had a problem with anger, and had done quite a bit of work on that. Other problems I worked on more effectively as a result of this were personal insecurity and jealousy.
Theoretically, if one is almost a saint or is a Boddhisattva in nature, when the entity is brought into your body, there are no units other than what the entity brings with her/hir/him, and those can be more easily cleared because your aura is so free of that type of unit. (Some advanced souls actually absorb negativity from other people and dissolve them: that's a little different in application to this - for a start, they are working on their own - but there are similarities of principle.)
In other words, the experience can be a growing experience as one gets to have flaws in one's character that one didn't even suspect, as they were so well buried, revealed in excruciating detail :)
Now, there are a couple of other facets to this.
Firstly, it is absolutely vital that you never lose. If you do, the entity will get a surge of confidence, and will have the advantage of knowing how you work, and thus will be able to do greater harm and help others resist your efforts to clear them. So, as the Rangers of the Inner Plane motto goes: never lose - heal, learn, win. This generally means you will be working for as long as is necessary to clear or adequately contain the entity - possibly many hours, possibly even finishing in the early hours of the morning (we generally started in the evening).
Secondly, if you have a skilled enough interviewer, it is possible to turn this around and aggravate the uncooperative. In response, they will pull in more negative units, thereby giving all the sitters the opportunity to do more clearing.
Love, light, hugs and blessings
Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")
Notes:

1. See, for example, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here.


2. See here, here, here and elsewhere on my blog, and here, here and here.

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Tags: cooperative, earthbound, mediumship, rescue, uncooperative,

First published: Wodansdagr, 20th April, 2011

Last edited: Wednesday, 20th April, 2011

Post No. 253 - Random thoughts

While I have been busy with family matters of late (owing to a "family bereavement" - a death in the family), I have still had a few ideas for posts. I'm not in a position to develop these fully, at this stage, but I'll post a few quick thoughts.
Firstly, spontaneous human combustion (SHC). Several decades ago, when I was starting my serious training on this, I was told that some cases of SHC were due to people either accidentally or deliberately raising the kundalini when they were not spiritually ready: hence, their chakras were, in a sense, "blocked" - unable to transmit the powerful energies of a truly raised kundalini (many people think they have raised the kundalini, when in truth all they have done is stimulate a certain amount of chakric energy), and the blockage led to the energy going elsewhere, rather than up the channels it is meant to, and a consequence could be SHC.
"Fortunately" for most people who raise the kundalini before they are ready, they simply have mental health problems ... As you evolve spiritually, your chakras become more efficient (which many people describe as "opening": they are ALWAYS open, or active, to some extent - if they weren't, you would have major problems; "opening" and "closing" really means sensitising and desensitising), and thus are able to cope with the energies of the kundalini - which will raise of its own accord when you are ready.
Next, an analogy for thinking of your life: compare it to the structure of a building.
Let's begin by considering laying one plank of wood across another, and then nailing the two of them together. If you now try to slide the top plank across and off the bottom plank, the nail resists this shear force quite well: the metal of the nail resists the force. If you try to lever the top plank off the bottom, the nail will resist this also and, so long as the moment exerted is not too strong, the two pieces of timber will stay together. However, if the force applied (either way) is strong enough, it will cause the timber to deform slightly (technically, the weaker timber has "yielded"): over time, this eventually leads to the nail becoming loose, and thus less useful. Approaches to ensure the joint lasts include designing it with a factor of safety, redundancy (multiple nails), possibly glue (new glues are better in terms of having a long enough life - buildings such as houses are generally supposed to last at least 50 to 75 years in Australia, and until recently this wasn't possible with glues that were available), providing a brace to convert the moment to an axial load in the strut, using a material which was not as different in strength as the nail to the timber (such as wooden pegs - some people build houses without any nails), or making a gradual transition (a bit like using an arch instead of a post and beam construction).
In terms of your life, you may use, say ... meditation to help cope with life's stresses. If, however, the performance of this is something which is rigidly separated from other aspects of your life, it may eventually become a point of contention with others who are close to you. maybe a better way of having meditation in your life is to make the transition from normal life to meditation less abrupt - spend time, for example, emphasising how much you love those close to you before you go off to meditate, and focus on them when you come out of meditation.
Or ... if you exercise, maybe encourage your partner(s) to either also exercise or do something that they wish to that you don't have an interest in while you do that. Maybe you can include meditative aspects at work (e.g., a "30 second holiday" - close your eyes, relax and contemplate something pleasant at the start of your coffee break) or have something on your desk (if you work at a desk!) which reminds you of spiritual matters (without upsetting your colleagues).
These are the best analogies I can come up with at the moment on this. Now, life stages.
I've posted on this previously [1], by the way.
I've always been different to what society said I should be. I was never into parties, and as a teenager I didn't feel a desperate need to be in a relationship. Later in life, however, the desire to be in a relationship grew (although my interest in parties was so fleeting it was over almost before it began - as was my interest in drinking [why do so many Aussies think they haven't had a good time unless they've been so drunk or drug affected they can't remember what happened, or are drug affected afterwards? Possibly the fear of being rejected, so they take something to lower their inhibitions and hope the results of being obnoxious or "not themselves" will somehow attract someone to them ... ), but that didn't happen until I had resolved my major personal issues AND I had actually given up expecting a relationship.
As a teenager, many tend to think it must all happen now, or one's life will be tragically ruined for forever - you know, the tragic (hand across forehead as one swoons) "no-one will EVER love me 'cos no-one had sex with my in Grade Nine". It's not true - and it's easy to know that as one grows, but the truth still remains that it is not true. (I have to admit to being impatient to get out and start living my own life as a teenager. ... I'm also glad that I no longer choose to spend significant amounts of each day attending to physical appearance [make up etc] - there's too much of greater importance to do :) ... I also think people PLAN to make housework harder than it needs to be: for instance, keep everyuthing [e.g., fridges, washing machines] off the floor by around 150mm and then you (a) can get things out from underneath it, and (b) you don't have to waste massive amounts of energy doing a big production just to clear that part of the floor occasionally)
The same error (and it IS an error) can happen in spiritual matters.
We are basically an eternal soul: what does it matter if we have to wait a couple of decades while children grow and leave home before pursuing our spiritual interests, for example? Maybe they will have to wait until we retire. That delay may well be frustrating, but really, there is time - there is eternity. (The exceptions would be things such as if one had to complete a task at a particular stage of evolution of the planet one was on.) Levels of manifestation. I've recently read, as I've mentioned, Alexandra David-Neel's book "Magic & Mystery in Tibet" (Souvenir Press, ISBN 9 78025 637924). In this, an episode is described where two monks are watching a flag flutter in a wind, and debate which is moving - the flag, or the wind? The answer is neither: the mind moves. Now, that is true, but it requires some explanation for the everyday person to understand it.
First off, there are lots of levels of reality - the physical, the etheric, several astral levels, the mental level, the soul, etc, etc, etc. Most people talk of seven levels, but there are more. What we generally conceive of as mind is associated with the function of the physical brain. In an esoteric sense, it is probably part of the astral body's activity. There is a higher, personal level which is described as the "mental" level, which is a level of reality where, in effect, one lives in and explores/experiences certain concepts (Alice Bailey's work is good to read an understand on this topic). Above that is the level of our Overself, or Atman - our "soul", in a sense, which is where our parallels and ourself become united. This is the level that most Buddhists mean when they refer to "mind".
Now, the physical reality we exist in has been created: generally this is considered to be by the souls incarnated on it, but I suspect it may actually be at a level higher than that, higher than our individual Overselves. It is at either that level, or at least the level of our Overself, that the mind moves, and thereby creates the "illusion" of a flag moving in the wind. (This is also an interesting topic in terms of "miracles": when someone does something which most Westerners would consider miraculous, such as ... levitating, is it an application of unknown laws, as David-Neel and Lobsang Rampa say Tibetans think, or is it one soul deciding "to hell with it, I'm going to break the agreed manifestation of reality and do something different. ... I'm inclined towards the former, but I still wonder about it ... :) )
Now, in reading David-Neel's book, I was struck by how the Tibetan gurus teaching their disciples were very often what I would consider tricksters. For instance, one exercise involves withdrawing from the world, and then concentrating on a certain set of exercises to acheive a (to a Westerner) miraculous manifestation. This does not result in the desired spiritual result for the disciple, though, so - for those who persist - the exercise is repeated, several times, until the disciple has a break through comprehension on the nature of reality. I'm currently planning a post on this book which may go into this a bit more, but my initial thoughts include that these gurus are working along the lines of Loki or the shamanistic power animal coyote (who is one of my power animals :) ).
On that book, it was good to read a description of how a withdrawal or spiritual retreat is not a time for bludging or taking things easy, one will be flat doing various exercises - breathing, meditation, rituals, etc.
That reminds me of my last point: not using breathing. I think I have posted on this previously, in the context of Rampa's alternate nostril breathing exercise, where I found a visualisation to use in lieu of this. I generally use breathing to increase the power of the visualisation. That's all well and good, but when I no longer have a physical body, I won't be able to breathe in the same way - I can still absorb positive energy, and then direct it as per my visualisation, but I won't have the physical trigger. So I have recently started occasionally doing my chakra exercises without connecting them to my breathing (which I should mention is something I am only able to do effectively because of many years of doing these with breathing) to help me when I eventually pass over.
Anyway, that will have to do for now. Time to go back and starting supporting my partner through the wonderful set of revealed problems we call " a death in the family" (I so prefer our family-of-choice, or friends ... although it can be nice when family members are also part of our family-of-choice).
Love, light, hugs and blessings
Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")
Notes:

1. See here, for instance (although I have a better post somewhere ...)

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Tags: kundalini, spontaneous human combustion, analogy, life, contemplation, review, reflection, planes of existence, Lobsang Rampa, David-Neel, guru, teaching, visualisation, breathing,
First published: Sunnudagr, 17th April, 2011
Last edited: Wednesday 20th April, 2011

Post No. 252 - Some links

I found the following of interest, or thought it could be possibly of interest to others:

• Order of Scathach, which is a chivalrous order that appears to be run by the well known Kerr Cuhulain;
• http://www.witchvox.com/va/dt_va.html?a=usor&c=parent&id=14509, which I could relate to as I experienced exactly the same ignoring of problems when I was a child until I retaliated, or the provocations I was subjected to were ignored or trivialised (at school, when I was bullied - although I never retaliated as recently shown on Youtube, and, of all places, at a religious camp);
• http://www.witchvox.com/va/dt_va.html?a=caon&c=words&id=14357;
• A good death, 20th March 20, 2011: http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/a-good-death-20110319-1c1d8.html;
• http://www.crystalinks.com/;
• http://www.sacred-texts.com/;
• http://angelsghosts.com/demons_ghosts;
• http://ezinearticles.com/?Herbs-For-Protection&id=20427;
• http://www.mysticfamiliar.com/archive/empathy/moon_phases_and_cutting_the_ties_that_bind.htm.

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")

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Tags: bullying, children, science, ethics, chivalry, order,

First published: Manadagr, 11th April, 2011

Last edited: Monday, 11th April, 2011

Post No. 251 - On why I have been ruined for death ...

To be clear, I am NOT claiming any sort of immortality. No, the reason I chose this title is to show the change in values which occurs as one works with spirit rescue or some form of psychism (e.g., "proof of survival" mediumship [1], or astral travel) which improves awareness of "survival after death". In my case, I have been doing rescue since the early 1980s, and have had some form of psychic sensitivity for most of my life.

With the deaths of people who were close to me before the 80s (e.g. the wife of someone I crewed for when young, who was like a "mum-away-from-home" when we travelled, or another woman who was like a "universal mother" to most of us kids in the sailing club), I went through the commonplace feelings of loss and the process of grieving. By the time my (adoptive) Mother passed, a few years ago, however, I had considerably developed my ability to interact with the dying process, and with those who were earthbound or in the process of passing over - partly through my interest in the writings of Lobsang Rampa [2], partly through my general "New Age" study, reading and activities, but largely through the study and practical work I did at ASPECTS [3] .

As my Mother was dying in a hospice (the staff there were brilliant, by the way), unlike the rest of my family I could see and acknowledge those drawing round Mum, such as her father (who we called Pop). After she had passed (ironically, after waiting by her side for days, this happened while I was away for a couple of hours), when I looked at her body I saw but an empty shell. I knew she could be in contact if she wished (someone else I knew and was close to passed in the early 90s, and she would drop in from time to time - or do things like ask me to check on her daughter [which I eventually stopped doing as the daughter and I grew apart] or her husband).

I now find it impossible to grieve the way other people do - the wailing (physical or metaphorical), the lamentations, and so forth. I KNOW that I can still be in touch with someone I am close to - provided they wish to stay in contact, of course. People change in response to major life events, and one of those changes is the mini-enlightenment which comes after passing and going through the post-death debriefing (seeing the Akashic Record of one's life, and so forth - see Rampa's "Three Lives" for descriptions of this): part of those changes may be realising that the relationships formed during the past life were temporary, and that one has more important relationships/tasks ... or they may simply not like what they see of the living's true character :)

Of course, at the time of my mother's passing I felt I had to more or less "make a show" of being as upset as expected to be - and I willingly did so, as I knew it would help my family members. That is not to say I didn't have any grief -I would miss the physical hugs etc [4], but the depth of my grief was moderated by my experience.

I am currently doing what could be considered a form of "sitting Shiva" with my partner (although it could equally be considered being supportive), whose mother passed away just after we had been away on a trip (hence the gap in posts) - it is, obviously, not a complete adherence to this tradition, but it does bring to mind some of the differing cultural attitudes to death (which my partner and I have talked about).

For instance, the Tibetan "Book of the Dead" [5], sometimes called the "Bardo Thodol", is largely based on guiding the spirit of the dead person through the Bardo until they are safely in a womb - which is part of the Buddhist concept of rebirth, as opposed to the concept of reincarnation, where one generally has a certain amount of time in the astral between incarnations and a more personal stream of consciousness passes to the next life [6]. In this book, what I have re-read so far suggests that the perceptions may be somewhat culturally derived: I don't think a Westerner would experience the same visions etc, so reading the Bardo Thodol would probably be of limited value to a Westerner who had just died. Tibetan traditions include, if one can afford it, having a lama (or some less expensive person!) read the Bardo Thodol over a period of several days, to guide the soul safely through to their next rebirth. Being captured by demons is one of the concerns relating to this time, which has a few parallels to the concept of being earthbound (although being earthbound does not come with the Tibetan tradition of being able to bribe the demon or buy the soul's freedom ... ).

It is interesting to compare the emphasis on personal effort in the Bardo Thodol with the possibly greater role of rituals, spells and deities in the "Egyptian Book of the Dead" (unfortunately, my copy of that is still in storage, so I can't comment too much here). My recollection is that the Egyptians didn't believe in reincarnation (hence the effort to make sure that those in the Afterlife were going to be happy - and, in the case of the Pharoahs, to make the necessary approaches to Deities to keep things good back on Earth ...).

It is also interesting to compare and contrast the two "Books of the Dead", Rampa's writings, Alexandra David-Neel's writings, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' books on grief [7], and my own experiences.

Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")

Notes:

1. See also here.
2. I am actually getting quite a bit from the Yahoogoup "The Rampa Path" at the moment - not that I agree with every post, or would seek to be buddies in real life with some of the people, but the discussion is largely focused on Rampa's writings, and some good comments are made.
3. Study and practical work I thought quite hard at the time,but it is interesting to compare that with the treatment meted out to disciples by Tibetan gurus - see, for instance, Alexandra David-Neel's book "Magic & Mystery in Tibet" (my copy was published by Souvenir Press, ISBN 9 78025 637924).
4. The grief for someone who is physically intimate, such as a lover, would be more intense because of the loss of physical sensations - which cannot be made up for unless you can astral travel consciously, in which case you can choose to experience astral sex and astral hugs.
   
   "Grief" can take some less conventional avenues as well: I used to know some women who were taking legal action against a relative who had abused them. Their alleged abuser died before the matter could come to court, and as a result they were left without resolution in the physical world. I'm aware that there would be a resolution in the astral, but the lack of such in this physical world means everyone will eventually arrive in a far more damaged state ...
   
5. My version is the Evens-Wentz version (Oxford University Press, ISBN 0-19-500223-7 - I am looking forward to reading the psychological commentary by Jung), which credits the translation to Lama Dawa-Samdup, who may be the same person mentioned by David-Neel (who was, accoding to David-Neel, extremely hard on his disciples).
6. Interesting to read of the Norse having a reference to reincarnation - see here.
7. One of the big shortcomings in what has been written by most people I have read is that it focuses on the personal, whereas my experience is that the dynamics of families and groups is a MAJOR part of the death experience - for both the living and the dead.

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Tags: death, earthbound, rescue, family, about me, abuse, ASPECTS, Lobsang Rampa, David-Neel, Tibet, Egypt, group dynamics,

First published: Manadagr, 11th April, 2011

Last edited: Monday, 11th April, 2011