All neurodivergent people I have met are inclusive of trans+ people ... the overwhelming majority of neurodivergent people I have watched on the internet are also inclusive - and some are transgender.
There are a few grating exceptions: a few cisfemale autists who include transmen in and exclude transwomen from lists of traits for cisfemale autists.
Wrong.
Social conditioning has an influence, but the truth is that binary trans+ people, in their core or their essence, ARE the gender they say they are. That means the traits cannot be simply cut into female here and male over there.
On top of that, there are nonbinary, gender fluid, gender diverse, etc people.
But to go back to binary trans people:
- many, if not most, transwomen - i.e., AMAB - THINK, FEEL, REACT, and, to quite an extent, BEHAVE more like girls than boys - e.g., get into trouble for playing with dolls rather than being sports oriented;
- many, if not most, transmen - i.e., AFAB - THINK, FEEL, REACT, and, to quite an extent, BEHAVE more like boys than girls - often described as tomboys. There is an example of someone who was AFAB at https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-02-02/transgender-carpenter-out-to-change-attitudes-in-trade-industry/100792594 - the initial assignment was WRONG! Their body may have fitted that designation, but they, as a person, was and is now male.
Social conditioning has an influence, but a transwoman is more likely to have the traits ascribed to ciswomen than cismen - I know I did as a child and I do now!
So, to those few cisfemale autists who are getting this wrong, if you want to be accurate, leave groups such as AFAB/AMAB out and just say you don’t know how this applies to trans+ people - because you clearly do not have a basic understanding of transgenderism, and you are actively causing real harm when you try to deny transmen are men, or that transwomen are women - and that's what you're doing.
PS - I still include these people's videos (except the specific ones that have the fault of transphobia) in my recommendations, as they are experts on various forms of neurodiversity
PPS - I found some of the videos I wanted to use as examples of better approaches:
- this also gets into why people are not being diagnosed: “Does Autism Present Differently in Women & Girls? What about Non-Binary Autistic People?” https://youtu.be/IwGiCPbqYgM?si=ApdPPBWTGsGxiDSc
- “Autism And Gender Identity” https://youtu.be/_wAaZBsWTN4?si=fJo_LnHjpsHgAjQ2 and “How I Parent My Transgender Autistic Child” https://youtu.be/2O-V_g4UNoA?si=OAD4ZhhlPtsRHeqn
