One of the MANY failings of a patriarchal society is that it is inherently possessive ... and that shows in amathiac things like rubbish ideology about perfect mates/opposite halves / being in love and/or together for forever and so on, whereas even a modicum of thought shows how ludicrous that is even in terms of millions of years, let alone billions.
Friendships, relationships, roles in life, etc are all basically for a reason, a season, or - in some cases - a lifetime, but most will end. If nothing else, eventually people start to grow on slightly diverging paths or at differing rates of travel, and there comes a time when a relationship should naturally and amicably end - or at least transform.
Our legal systems, warped by both patriarchy and neochristianity, are built around possession - as well as a presumption of being monogamously heteronormatively coupled, and victim blaming of those on social security, and that all tends to enforce continuation of that by viewing anything else as taboo - a breach of societal norms.
That both blocks growth, and creates nonBPM states of being - resentment, frustration, etc.
For the sake of those involved, and also the wellbeing (including innovation/creativity, which often needs the absence of fear of survival, and productivity, which is best when stress etc is absent) of society, we need to change that so that relationships - including friendships as much as intimate relationships - and roles can be ended without ill-will, judgement, or vitriol.
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