One of the comments I have come across in relation to the current US leader is “man-baby tantrums” ... and it certainly fits both his behaviour, and that of some cismales I have worked with - although, in at least one case, they just needed some guidance from someone older and, since getting that, seem to have turned into a decent person.
This included:
- a young male engineer who threw a tantrum because I wouldn’t let the aggressive idiot drive my personal car (being used for work with usage paid for by mileage) (this is the one that turned out OK later on);
- a young electrical engineer who threatened to destroy my career when I pointed out that people bought solar panels also out of concern for the effects of the climate crisis and not solely to save money (I think, at that stage, that sort of psychotic reaction may have infested a few in that profession, as their advice to the state government was always poor, and one was openly misogynistic);
- two cismales passengers (engineers travelling to sites with me - on separate trips) in my car who deliberately threw rubbish on the floor of my car after being told to use a bag for rubbish;
- a male colleague who derided my work on an overseas trip later tried to - unbelievably - claim he was “joking”; and
- an IPOC who expected me to wash his clothes during an extended work trip (I refused - forcefully, and argued with his amathiac wife who tried to argue that I should have ).
The fact that these incidents occurred in a workplace reflects badly on those committing the tantrums, and their managers, mentors, (male) peers, etc ... and possibly their parents.
The workplace abuses were possibly, I suspect, also due to religious and other transphobic bigotry against me, but misogyny was the major component - in the 21st Century ...
This sort of problem is not limited to men. Once, decades ago, a ciswoman who was interested in me threatened to make a false report to police about me unless I dated her in the way she thought I should (basically, I had to take her wherever she demanded ... I have also had such toxic females make other ludicrous, offensive, and infantilising of women claims). It was a three year old’s school yard type of response - from a supposedly adult woman (and another indication of how evil social status is). And on that line, the refusal (much later inability) of a (now former) dependent to get an income was what trapped in those abusive jobs - and that relationship scarring is the worst (both depth & breadth of harm, and the likely duration) of all the harm done by this.
Oh - and I decided not to take legal action about these abuses for two reasons: one was knowing the sort of attacks that would be made against me and those around me (the threats were an example), the other was I wanted to try to make the places better - which had limited success.
PS - another example of misogyny was an online meeting where a female colleague made a suggestion which was ignored, then a male colleague repeated the same suggestion - word for word. I pointed that out, and the lying IPOC tried to claim he was reinforcing her suggestion - which, when done for males, included the name of the original person, so I called him out for being a liar.
PPS - why is it so often pampered city women in Western nations who do this - not rural (farm), and often not women from nations with harder living circumstances? Are the pampered city women in Western nations less capable of recognising when they are being duped by patriarchy?
As Jane Elliott (originator of the blue eyes-brown eyes training) wrote: “Females, get over ‘cute’. Get competent. Get trained. Get capable. Get over ‘cute’. And those of you who are called Patty and Debby and Suzy, get over that. Because we use those names to infantalise females – we keep females in their ‘little girl’ state by the names we use for them. Get over it. If you want to be taken seriously, get serious.”
PPPS - This article outlines the problems more eloquently, and in greater detail and extent than I possibly could: “The Manosphere: Reboot” https://clementinef.substack.com/p/the-manosphere-reboot “Inspired by Soraya Chemaly’s recent piece on men’s cultivated ignorance (and the fact women have been writing about the violence of ‘the manosphere’ for years without receiving the same cultural attention given to male-helmed documentaries), I’m sharing a complete chapter (fittingly titled ‘The Manosphere’) from my 2018 book, Boys Will Be Boys: Power, Patriarchy and the Toxic Bonds of Mateship.”
Possible flaws
Where I can, I will try to highlight possible flaws / issues you should consider:
- there may be flawed logical arguments in the above: to find out more about such flaws and thinking generally, I recommend Brendan Myers’ free online course “Clear and Present Thinking”;
- I could be wrong - so keep your thinking caps on, and make up your own minds for yourself.
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