Showing posts with label guilt. Show all posts
Showing posts with label guilt. Show all posts

Tuesday, 11 March 2025

Post No. 3,054 - The duty to do and appreciate enjoyable things (if one can)

One of the problems I have to still overcome is of wanting to do too much - to be busy or feel usefully occupied. 

In part, that is due to being raised in a household where both my parents had been raised with a combination of the stereotypical protestant work ethic and also experienced considerable hardship during the Great Depression - and many such survivors are afraid to not be busy or productive as those experiences have given them a fear of losing work or otherwise not having food, shelter, and the absolutely vital survival attribute in such desperate circumstances of having the support of one’s family/peers. Those characteristics were strengthened by living through World War (part) Two, which was followed by a desire to rebuild what had been destroyed - which required work, aka “being busy”

On top of that, my autism results in me taking exhortations to give 100% much more literally than others - meaning I would work to the point of a deep exhaustion from which the effects of masking, which were always manifest when I was at home, would hinder recovery. (I’ve given links below to a bunch of shorts from a channel that is very good at explaining this.)

And, to complete the trifecta, I worked in a profession which was cursed with people with self sacrificing (to the extent of being anti-family and even anti-life, in effect) and abusive personalities of the type Musk wants, expects and amathiacally “thinks” is - or should be - commonplace ... and quite a few unscrupulous and flawed characters took advantage of my characteristics to get work done the way they wanted at the expense of my well being and sanity. 

In response to all that, I developed skills such as meditation and what this blog covers, but the one characteristic that I have struggled with is the simple pleasure of just existing (as the footer puts it, “we generally need to be more human being rather than human doing”), which can actually be a powerful counter to the Musks and other such of this world, and taking that further to allow myself to have time to do things I enjoy doing - things that give me pleasure, such as listening to music, going bush, sketching, etc. 

Some pleasurable things are beyond me now for various reasons - so I won't have another pet (the physical demands of pet care are beyond me now) or go sailing again (owing to the transphobic hate in sport), for instance, but the others remain. 

(There can also be valid reasons for not being able to experience joy at a moment or period in time, such as the loss of loved ones or other suffering - as well expressed in the Hallowe'en tweet described in this article. There are also dangers such as spiritual bypassing, denialism, not attending to shadow work, etc to avoid.) 

On the other hand, my recovery from work has reached a stage where I can start thinking about going out and about and meeting people IRL, for instance (socialising, in a word - a bit).  

The move to write this came when I had started a music playlist, and found myself sitting and thinking “OK, so what should I do while the music is on?”, which was a d'oh! moment.

Now, the world is not in a good place, and there is a valid need for people to be activists working for change - and I have friends in hard situations, but, as a number of activists have written about, you cannot keep giving endlessly in activism without rest, rejuvenation, or renewal - and doing something you enjoy will increase your BPM energies, and, if you allow that joy and happiness - aka BPM energies - to flow out into the world, it will be a direct counter to nonBPM energies. 

And thus I enjoyed my music playlist - without guilt. 


Links

and also


There is one other matter I wish to cover, which is that the current US president may have a reading problem. 

I came across a YouTube video on this which, although it covered the key points relating to that person well enough, did so in a snarky way that effectively attacked others with similar disabilities and thus I will not use it. 

However, there are other articles online which address this, including The Times of Israel (2016) and We Got This Covered (2024), but the one I want to particularly refer you, Dear Reader, to, is: 

“Why [the current US president] Can’t Learn: An Educated Guess by a Veteran Teacher”   https://www.commondreams.org/views/2019/09/17/why-[the-current-US-president]-cant-learn-educated-guess-veteran-teacher   “Dyslexia may explain a lot about the twisted behaviour of the president”      

This article includes the following: 

“I think he began faking when he was six or seven and couldn’t keep up with the other children his age who had learned their letters and were starting to read sentences and little stories. He wanted to be "great" so he made things up.   ...   Dyslexia is not predictive of a particular fate but combines with elements in each person’s personality. One person might become an excellent forest guide who knows all the birds, small creatures, and trees intimately and doesn’t need to rely on reading. By contrast, another might undertake a strenuous course of tutoring to maintain grade level in school, be open about his or her [or their] reading problem, ask for extra time in exams, and eventually graduate from college with a stellar record. A third might inherit a lot of money, then create and monitor a foundation to help people with various disabilities. A fourth, discouraged, might drop out of school and settle for doing odd jobs in the neighbourhood.   And a fifth might fake and falsify his way to fame and power and enjoy lording it over so-called “smart” people and thwarting their hopes. I am suggesting that [the current US president]’s lifelong experience with dyslexia, instead of increasing his capacity for compassion, has instead combined with problematic elements in his personality, including a penchant for revenge that was apparent even when he was a young adult.”  

I know or have known a total of at least four other people (plus a few acquaintances and work colleagues) with dyslexia, and many of them have actually been wonderful, caring and/or genuinely talented (in a particular area) people, so blaming the current US president’s behaviour on dyslexia is flawed - other factors, especially his abusive father, are far more likely to have been significant - although the abuse of other children would not have helped either, and is a good example of why bullying by children must be actively stopped (and doing so should also be used to teach children to be upstanders, not bystanders)

This double point about 

(a) not using a disability to “explain” (“excuse”) problematic behaviour, and 

(b) not tarring all people who have a particular disability with the same brush, 

is important, and applies elsewhere - including the supposedly autistic Musk, and a stack of others I know or have known. 

And with [the current US president], while dyslexia might partly explain the possible confusion or misreading that changed transgenic mice to transgender mice, it does NOT excuse the hate.



Possible flaws 

Where I can, I will try to highlight possible flaws / issues you should consider: 

  • there may be flawed logical arguments in the above: to find out more about such flaws and thinking generally, I recommend Brendan  Myers’ free online course “Clear and Present Thinking” 
  • I could be wrong - so keep your thinking caps on, and make up your own minds for yourself.

 

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Remember: we generally need to be more human being rather than human doing, to mind our MÓ•gan, and to acknowledge that all misgendering is an act of active transphobia/transmisia that puts trans+ lives at risk & accept that all insistence on the use of “trans” as a descriptor comes with commensurate use of “cis” as a descriptor to prevent “othering” (just as binary gendered [men’s and women’s] sporting teams are either both given the gender descriptor, or neither).

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Friday, 1 April 2016

Post No. 848A - the second set of keywords

Owing to Blogger's limits on keywords, when I have a lot I have to post them in batches. This is the second lot of keywords for this post.

Keywords: 
dreams, Earth (element), earthbound entities, ectomancy, effort, elements, emotions, energy work, ethics, faery, feedback, friends, frustration, garlic, ghost, grounding, guilt, hungry ghosts, 

Monday, 14 March 2016

Post No. 838B - the third set of keywords

Owing to Blogger's limits on keywords, when I have a lot I have to post them in batches. This is the third lot of keywords for this post.

Keywords:
abuse of power, anger, animals, artificer, attitudes, authentic presence, awareness, balance, Balanced Positive, Bhakti, blackmail, blood, challenge, change, chaos, children, circle, clairvoyance, concentration, consequences, control, death, Deities, dimensions, discrimination, divination, dowsing, Earth (element), earthbound entities, elements, emotions, energy work, equal and opposite reaction, ethics, evil, faery, faith, family, fear, fight or flight or network and nurture, Fire (element), focus, folk lore, forgiveness, friends, genes / genetics, gifts / giving, grounding, growth orientation, guilt, healing, history, honour, ignorance, informed decisions, insularity, invisibility, invocation, isolation, judging others, justice, knowledge, language, levels, limitations, love, MÓ•gan, magic, magickal language, magickal techniques and styles, magickal tools, manifestation, metaphysical mass, metaphysics, moral courage, motivation, mythology, myths, names, neochristianity, nightfall, Paganism, pain, Pentacle, pentagram, personal responsibility, perspective, phenomena, power, prejudice, preparation, prophecy, protection, psychic attack, psychic development, psychism, psychology, racism, reincarnation, rescue, residue, responsibility, revenge, risks, rituals, sacrifice, scepticism, Seelie, self knowledge, sexism, shielding, (the) Sight, society, spells, Spiritual Maturity, spirituality, subconscious, submissiveness, sunrise, survival after death, teaching, telepathy, temperature, tests, thaumaturgy, the Greater Good, train others how to treat us, uncooperative, understanding, undetectability, Unseelie, ward, werewolf, yoga,

Sunday, 6 March 2016

Post No. 834A - the second set of keywords

Owing to Blogger's limits on keywords, when I have a lot I have to post them in batches. This is the second lot of keywords for this post.

Keywords: 

abuse of power, anger, artificer, authentic presence, blackmail, breathing exercises, clairvoyance, colour, consequences, control, courage, death, Deities, demons, denial, discrimination, divination,dreams, dynamic balance, ectomancy, emotions, energy work, ethics, expectation, evidence, evil, faery, faith, family, fear, fight or flight or network and nurture, flaming, folk lore, friends,garlic, governance, healing, hypocrisy, ignorance, informed decisions, law, levels, limits, knowledge, magic, magickal techniques and styles, meditation, mediumship, metaphysical mass, moral courage, mythology,necromancy, pain, phobophage, possession, power, preparation, proof, prophecy, protection, psychic attack, racism, responsibility, rites, rituals, sacrifice, scepticism, Seelie,society, spells, survival, survival after death, teaching, tests, thaumaturgy, transmigration, understanding, Unseelie, vampire, vulnerabilities, zombie, Valkyrie, visualisation, ward, time magic,

Post No. 833A - the second set of keywords

Owing to Blogger's limits on keywords, when I have a lot I have to post them in batches. This is the second lot of keywords for this post.

Keywords: 
artificer, authentic presence, change, circle, clairvoyance, compassion, concentration, cryptozoology, demons, denial, discrimination, dreams, earthbound entities, ectomancy, emotions, energy work, evocation,equal and opposite reaction, faery, focus, folk lore, forgiveness, ghost, guilt, hauntings, honour, inappropriate reactions, invocation, karma, knowledge, law, levels, MÓ•gan, magic, manifestation,metaphysics, motivation, myths, names, neochristianity, obsession, perspective, phenomena, possession, potion, prejudice, prophecy, protection, psychic attack, psychic distance, psychism, rescue, responsibility,abuse of power, rituals, scepticism, Seelie, sexism, shapechanging, shielding, (the) Sight, spell, spirituality, subconscious, sunrise, talismans, thought form, threshold, uncooperative, Unseelie, vampire, ward, werewolf,

Saturday, 22 March 2014

Post No. 530 - The Tara Dale Chronicles: A day on the school yard for Greg

I have published another of the stories of the Tara Dale Chronicles (which I first referred to using the phrase "Four Million Leaky Auras"), a series of short stories and books I'm working on (don't hold your breath for this - it's like everything in my life: proceeding at magisterially slow pace ... ). The story is built around rescue and clearing. If you'd like to have a look, it is at http://musingsofkayleen.blogspot.com.au/2014/03/the-tara-dale-chronicles-day-on-school.html.

Enjoy :)

If you can't be bothered heading over there, here's a copy ...
Author’s note: although I was bullied at school, I was never able to control or influence others this way. I never had the level of school yard support from teachers that Greg does in this story, but much of this is based on my experience – including the football incident. I’m glad that attempts are being made to address bullying in schools – and elsewhere – now, although those systems relying on the victim explaining how successful the bully was in intimidating, scaring or upsetting the victim are, in my view, flawed … maybe the adults behind that share the naiveté of Mr Parker …
The lead character in this story is one of the four main characters from the Tara Dale Chronicles, and story is intended to – in part – provide some of his ‘backstory’.
 ***
There was a girl, a teenager wheedling in her best sing song voice: “Oh, please? It’ll be just this time, I promise!”
Three houses away, a young man in his early twenties was loudly snarling “What are ya? A party pooper?”
The young boy, Greg, sighed to himself, and realised he would have to set limits to his search – the school boundaries. He firmly set his will to limit what he was – somehow - doing at that, and tried searching again for what the adult Greg would term ‘control’.
He didn’t know the word yet, or much about how this was all happening, but he did know the events earlier that had led him here.
It had started at the morning break. He’d headed out with the other kids from his class, but while they’d all run off to play with friends, he’d found a corner of the sheds which looked like it might be safe, and sat on the seats which were on the outside, underneath the overhanging roof, where he could see them.
Some of the other kids sitting nearby had stared at him, but he was in Grade Five now, so he’d been able to ignore them as just little kids, and they hadn’t had the nerve to say anything, just look over and then turn back to their friends to make snide remarks behind hands and laugh sideways at him. The others weren’t little, though, they were in Grade Six.
Four of them, one bouncing a footy, which left Greg wondering if it was going to be thrown into his head as had happened the previous year. He’d tried to identify the kid who had done it, but his nerve had run out after they’d checked Grade Five, and the bully was probably with his other classmates from that Grade Six being bullied in high school.
But it hadn’t been anything physical, this time, not at first anyway: it had been names.
“Looks half black, doesn’t it?”
“Curly hair like that would make a good mop.”
“What are ya, blind? It’s hair isn’t curly, but it’d make a good wig for a girl.”
Greg’s heritage was a mixture of indigenous, Afghan, German and Scottish, all blended from around South Australia’s Barossa Valley. In his adult life, with his dark hair and swarthy skin, he would be described as a blue eyed homage to the young Omar Sharif. As a child, he would be an easy target for the mostly white kids in his pre-(officially) multicultural Australia, he and the kids who looked European, and a few white kids who seemed different.
He mustered his courage –without taking a deep breath, as that, in his experience, would be enough to set off an attack, and stood up to move away. That, and silence, was the best his teachers and parents could come up with, the days of anti-bullying strategies being decades away in the future. It was pretty much useless.
The No. 2 of the group – it was easy to pick the bosses, often the biggest cowards, and the toadying servants who had their own hierarchy, and often did the physical work – grabbed Greg by the coat and pushed him up against the side of the timber shed.
Greg was torn. He wasn’t hurt – he’d kept his head forward so it didn’t hit the side of the shed, and the bully didn’t have hold of any skin, but he was afraid of getting in trouble if he fought back or defended himself, and that, and fear of not being able to stop if he started and all the bullying drove him to go too far and get into trouble for hurting another kid, not fear of pain or desire to do what the adults all called ‘the right thing’ stopped him from fighting back.
He called on his inner strength, lifted an arm across his body, and leaning into the arm, pushed across his body and swept the arms holding him off, and wedged his way forcefully out of the bullies. He didn’t see the look of surprise on No. 2 Tormentor’s face, but he did hear the laughter that followed him, laughter which No. 2 joined in to cover his embarrassment of not keeping the smaller kid locked up. Later he would brag that he’d really let him go, out of pity, you know.
But then, in the school yard, Greg was walking purposefully away, when he was called by a teacher.
“Greg!”
He turned reluctantly. At least it was Mr Parker, the best teacher in the school.
“Are you alright, Greg?”
“Yes, sir.”
“You sure? It looked like those boys were giving you a hard time.”
A hard time? You bloody idiot, sir, I was physically assaulted and threatened.
He thought that, but aloud, despairing of the blindness, naiveté and downright ideological stupidity of adults, only said “I’m OK.”
Mr Parker nodded thoughtfully, and asked “Would you like me to have a talk to them?”
“Not really, sir. It wouldn’t change anything, and they’ll just pick on me more if you do.”
“Alright, then. But I’m going to have to let them know I saw something, and make sure they know that sort of behaviour is not on.”
Greg shrugged his shoulders, and, as Mr Parker strolled off, apparently aimlessly, walked to one of the few trees in the school yard, and turned to place his back against it while he watched the bullies and Mr Parker.
Greg had to admit that Mr Parker handled his arrival masterfully. He’d simply meandered around in a few directions until the group had smirked to themselves and appeared to have decided that they’d got away with it. Then, within moments, he was at their side, talking to them. Clearly Mr Parker was saying something, and Greg could see one of the bullies look sourly in his direction. After a few minutes, there was some uneasy laughter, and the group appeared ready to break up.
Greg felt anger and hate. He’d get picked on more for sure.
You idiot, Mr Parker! They’re playing with you. Can’t you see the looks at me? They’re going to get even with me for snitching!
And then Mr Parker suddenly swung the leader around, and held the boy off balance by one arm. He stooped to look directly in the boy’s eyes, a frightening glare on his face and a snarl in his distant voice. He shook the boy, who now looked terrified.
Good! thought Greg. Find out what it’s really like to be on the receiving end.
He noticed a group of girls standing nearby. They were universally loathed as up themselves snobs who put on airs and thought themselves too good looking for the school. Greg knew that at least one of them was terrified of her poor performance at school and used this as a cover for her fears. Right now, he couldn’t care less.
Hey, there’s someone weak there? Why don’t you pick on them for once?
And they did. They moved closer to the boys, and clearly had started mouthing off in their supercilious, presumptuous, arrogant manner.
Mr Parker was looking shocked.
Greg saw the retreating boys were passing a group of small kids who were playing marbles. One of them, in future decades, would be diagnosed as having ADHD: now, he was just called trouble.
Wouldn’t it be good if he threw a marble at one of the other kids?
Suddenly, that happened.
Greg was horrified.
Shit! I’m doing what they did!
He didn’t have the words to explain it, but in effect what he did was relinquish the control he had claimed over these people.
Mr Parker snapped at the boy who’d thrown the marble, who snarled up at him, and said something to the snarky girls, who tried to back chat him and were evidently told to button it.
Greg slowly sank until he was crouched at the base of the tree.
What had just happened? How did that happen? What’s wrong with me?
He looked at the carnage that he’d just created. The bullies were now looking at him with fear in their eyes. Greg didn’t know that the fear was partly of fathers who would accuse them of being weak and unmanly.
The group of girls was clearly agitated, and marble boy was standing rigid and ready to explode.
Oh shit. I did that.
He didn’t know where it came from until many years later, but come it did – a thought, a thought that, maybe … just maybe … if he had used this ability to cause harm, he could use to do good.
He looked at the bullies, a couple of whom were shivering, despite their coats. He … somehow felt out towards them, and became aware that most of them feared their fathers.
Say it. Say you don’t know what to do about your Dads.
He watched as the group slowly became less tense.
Greg felt relief, and thought Good.
He looked at marble boy next, and felt that awareness tell him that what was really upsetting the boy was that he didn’t know where his marble had gone. Greg became aware where it was.
He thought to the small boy It’s there. You can go get it, your friends won’t mind if you go around the circle so you don’t risk standing on their fingers or moving their marbles.
The boy looked directly at Greg, smiled and ran around the circle scratched in the dirt towards his marble.
Greg looked at the girls, obviously agitated. He could see Mary, the girl he knew was scared of doing badly.
Change the topic, Mary. Change it to what really gets you – worry about school marks.
Again, he could see the group change, with their former leader looking at Mary, and the group spreading to be more uniform, rather than clustered around their leader.
And now, Mr Parker. He could see the teacher standing, stunned, an island in the dusty schoolyard covered with noisy, running kids, except for a small kid who, unnoticed, had grabbed the teacher’s hand.
Greg felt that same awareness tell him that he would have to go talk to Mr Parker, and thank him for getting the message through so strongly, and that he didn’t think anything further would come of it or be needed. He’d have to make the violence a small thing, almost like pretending it didn’t happen.
He’d also need to hurry, as the bell to end school recess was going to ring shortly.
As he trotted over to Mr Parker he thought that he’d have to see what this … this … gift could do at lunch break.

Copyright © Kayleen White, 2014 (where this date is different to the year of publication, it is because I did the post some time ago and then used the scheduling feature to delay publication) I take these photographs and undertake these writings – and the sharing of them – for the sake of my self expression. I am under no particular illusions as to their literary or artistic merit, and ask only that any readers do not have any undue expectations. If you consider me wrong, then publish me – with full credit and due financial recompense, of course :)

Saturday, 22 October 2011

Post No. 330 - Reflections, reading and how NOT to do a "rescue"

I mentioned in a recent post what some paths are good at and others not good at: well, one issue that it seems Christians are better at, in my experience, than other paths is the forgiveness - including self forgiveness - and redemption of wrongdoers. Their whole path, to some extent, is based on a formula for forgiveness of sin - there is a list of "what is right", and "what is wrong", and if you "accidentally" do something from the "what is wrong" list, or decide to skip something from the "what is right" list, there is a formula for what you have to do to be forgiven for that. (See the Order of Scathach's lesson 2). No messy having to clean up after you, or take responsibility for what you have done - but it does tend to mean that wrongdoers (e.g., criminals) have a set formula for being able to take their place in society again - maybe not with their head held up high, but able to take their place in society.

The old "Celtic" systems of justice were based on reparative justice (I think this may have actually been more the Breton part of the Celtic world). To simplify, under this, the victims of a wrongdoing were compensated by the wrongdoer: the modern concept of forced withdrawal from society by confinement in a prison had not yet evolved. (I think our system of fines, however, came from the old Saxon ideas of payment as a form of reparative justice - so many coins for the loss of a hand, etc.) Modern justice systems tend, in my opinion, to focus on "sending a message" to discourage others from committing crimes, such as theft or murder: the framework is about society, and the victim tended to be forgotten or overlooked in this. There have been some changes to start to address that, such as victim impact statements, and reform to address the trauma inflicted on victims of sexual assault by the legal system itself (such as cross examinations, which used to include the victim's sexual history).

Now, there is no question in my mind that the victim of a crime needs to be considered - after all, the crime is what was committed against them, but the metaphoric pendulum of attitudes and systems is still swinging, and I think there are a few dangers in where it could be headed.

First of, there is, in many people (I could have written "in society", but that is really the aggregate of many people) a desire for revenge, and hence some people advocate for harsher sentences and even the death penalty, thinking - simplistically, in my opinion - that it must "send a message" and discourage other crimes. Well, no, not necessarily - it does in some cases, for instance laws against discrimination send a message that discrimination is unacceptable, but the death penalty, in my opinion, does not cure anything. Irrespective of whatever statistics are dug up on that matter (and I note some British personage pointed out a long time ago that, in order to encourage a respect for life, it is necessary to demonstrate a respect for life - although he did do that using very "class-ist" language), the soul is not destroyed, and what is that spirit going to be lie in its next incarnation as a result of having been killed?

Of greater relevance is the issue of recidivism - people who have been jailed continuing to commit crimes because that is all they know, and what they have learned while in jail. One young person I spoke to who had been jailed said he had learned around 20 ways to use a stolen credit card: is that useful? I do believe that there are times when, for the sake of the greater good, people need to be jailed, but it needs to be done humanely, and with a focus on rehabilitation.

An issue I have with current social attitudes is that it puts everyone into either the good or bad box, saint or sinner - ignores that all are capable of wrong under certain circumstances. As some North American Indians (I think - couldn't find a link to confirm this, but it was part of my training) say, we ALL have two wolves inside us, a "good" wolf, and a "bad" wolf. These two wolves are struggling for dominance, and which one wins depends on which one we feed ... We can get habits of spirituality that help us feed the "good", but given enough provocation, the other wolf is still there, no matter how far we evolve ...

I was, therefore, pleased to read recently that a judge found that someone had been provoked - I thought that element of common sense had been lost from the world.
http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/tv-networks-censured-over-misleading-editing-of-terrorist-video-footage-20110921-1kl7n.html

I started writing this as tests have been coming from the Universe that are increasingly severe, but I can think back to many times in my life when my forbearance has been tested - one of the earliest being at a Church of England camp when, at a meeting I got up to do something at the request of a leader, and when I came back and tried to sit in my place, had a young girl laying on the floor cry when I asked for the space where my feet had been, and had the girl's friend accuse me of - I can't recall now, maybe being a bully? Anyway, it meant that they thought I should keep my feet in the air! Of relevance to now, it was, in my view, a false allegation and an issue of injustice that was not addressed by the camp leaders - they tried the distraction approach: everyone had to have a sleep, followed by "do you feel better now?" - no, I didn't, but maybe it helped me to leave that religion :)

(There was an interesting article on Witchvox a few months ago by someone who watched a child respond to aggressive behaviour from another child in a very appropriate way, moving away and trying to share constructively, but when, in desperation, the child hit out defensively, the two mothers who had been nearby intervened INappropriately, starting to tell off the child. The author of the article, father of one of the children, explained what had been going on. I often think of this when children are told to sort out their problems on the playground - my experience is that such is a formula for giving bullies free rein ...)

Interesting that the camp incident was handled so badly, when they seem to have their act together for a formulaic rehabilitation and reintegration of serious offenders.

I wonder what victim's groups would do about offenders? Many seem to want an apology. I don't: the few I've had in life have rarely been genuine, and I consider the "tell the bully how you're feeling" approach to be irresponsible in that it gives the bullies I've had to put up with exactly what they want! Whatever they do want, someone needs to consider the issue of how to reintegrate the offender back into normal life. Hopefully, with a better model than the "I have found the Lord and repent" approach ...

The one qualification to all this is child abusers: the evidence is that they are at risk of offending for the rest of their current incarnation (rarely seems to carry over into the next life, though). In that case, the massive harm they cause would suggest that compulsory treatment or jailing is warranted to prevent further children being harmed, but society's principles of justice will only countenance jailing, followed by monitoring. There are (valid) concerns about starting down a slippery slope by forcing treatment (there have been films about where this could lead to, including, I understand, "Minority Report"), but there are even more valid concerns about what happens to children who are abused - often because they are not believed. I don't know what the solution is here - but, if I was looking for one, I'd certainly start by considering what groups like Bravehearts have to say.

Now, let's move on to a few other matters. I'll begin with knowledge.

The impression I get from many courses - not only in "alternative" matters - is that it is important to have a wealth of facts, figures, equations and the like readily at hand. In other words, to know something means having instant recall of everything you have studied.

Now, my natural tendency is to want to be able to do this, and I know that most people are capable of more recall than they generally give themselves credit for (especially if they don't dissolve their brains in alcohol, drugs or stupefying TV and similar "entertainment"), but I also KNOW that the sheer volume of information in existence is beyond the capacity of any one person to recall - even IF they could learn it all in the first place. This applies both generally, and to particular professions - a standard piece of advice I give to young engineers is that knowing where to get knowledge is more important than knowing the information directly.

This also applies to metaphysics and psychic matters. I recently had a go at my version of Harry Dresden's "shield bracelet" (I'll post what I came up with when I finish developing this), and I relied heavily on being able to go to sources for details of symbols - I know the Elder Futhark runes pretty well, but this needed more, including the Seals of Solomon which I find work very well. To some extent, given my innate desire to know and carry all knowledge around me "in my bones", so to speak, I felt a bit of a cheat, in that haven't made any major contribution like whoever used the planetary squares and other sources of information to come up with the Seals of Solomon, and I didn't discover or contribute to the creation of the symbols from Cunningham's "Living Wicca" (I like to go back to the source, and at least one of the sources I was looking at indicated they had obtained their symbols from Cunningham's book). However, that was a lesson for me: although I need to continue expanding my abilities, including my mental abilities, it is simply not possible to know everything and contain that within one incarnate being (maybe that is part of why the Goddess created so many of us ...).

Now, other matters. Here's a whole range of miscellaneous thoughts. I don't expect anyone to agree these, but please spend some time thinking to see how you feel about them, and see what reflections they may trigger in you.

First off, negative energy doesn't necessarily make one feel unhappy - think of a drug user's emotional reaction to a hit, or an alcoholic's reaction to getting drunk: both would consider themselves "happy", and yet they are doing something harmful to themselves, and often harmful to others.

On that, avoidance sadly seems to be endemic in society - drink, drugs, parties, meaningless sex, etc - anything rather than fixing the life circumstance, issue or problem that is making one feel dissatisfied. That is not spiritually healthy. If one gets a cold, it isn't just a case of popping pills to suppress the symptoms and then "soldiering on", it is - in my experience - a call from your body for a rest, whether it be a rest from stress (we spend more times in "fight or flight"mode than hunter-gatherers!) or a rest from junk we might be feeding ourselves (such as the aforementioned drink, drugs, etc). The attitude of too many people I know is "take a pill and get on with it".

Now, on that, one of the things I like about the Order of Schathach's approach is that they believe in facing life fully and directly, not the avoidance of pills and parties. A few other things I like (selected at random) about their training materials (which I am slowly working my way through) include:
  • that divinity is within us, and we don't access it externally so much as bring it forth from within us (very true, and very nice to come across someone else saying this);
  • have a concept of entrainment with energy;
  • slipping in or out of circles rather than cutting doorways;
  • working without a circle (e.g., directing energy to a central "steersprson" who directs the energy to where it needs to go);
  • triangle of defence;
  • facing life face on: no avoidance;
  • feeling the direction of flow of energy;
  • the use of song and dance - and silence;
  • entrainment;
  • toning;
  • etc, etc, etc
(There are a range of other groups/matters/paths I am studying, incidentally. Learning never stops :) )

Now, another topic I have been reflecting on is that of rules. In terms of a group seeking to foster spiritual development, say, like ... perhaps a monastery ... rather than, say, compulsorily enforce silence, perhaps it is better to watch potential members and simply select those who are naturally tending towards that. This thought has come about partly because I am aware of my increasing preference for silence as I age, compared to when I was younger, and wanted music around me. (I also use this approach when assessing potential students, these days: many exclude themselves by the disrespectful or undisciplined ways they live their lives, for example. I have no problem with that - I have a duty to be sure anyone I teach is morally trustworthy anyway.)

Going from that, , a recent thought of mine is that, sadly, some people people only truly become mature when their parents die. Maturity is marked by independence, and many cannot get by without chats to Mum ... That may be "cute", but in some cases it goes further, and really marks a form of dependence that shows a lack of maturity. (It can also, in the case of an ex- of mine, put a confining pressure on the parent that stops them moving on with their life.)

Now on the issue of parents and children, we have had a newspaper columnist, Miranda Devine, write that allowing a trans child access to puberty blockers is tantamount to child abuse. She is wrong: NOT allowing hormone treatment is child abuse - it is likely to lead to suicide. I know many trans people who, if they had been allowed access to puberty blockers, would have had FAR easier lives. Her credibility is nil. For some facts on this issue, consider these links from the TransGender Victoria website:
The issue of the moment seems to be the issue of young trans* people.

We suggest these articles and links.

http://jme.bmj.com/content/34/8/580.abstract "This paper argues that suspension of puberty is not only not unethical: if it is likely to improve the child’s quality of life and even save his or her life, then it is indeed unethical to defer treatment."


"We don't have any patient who has regretted their decision on the treatment," says Henriette Delemarre-van de Waal of Leiden University Medical Centre who has helped treat them."
Support IDAHO (International Day Against Homophobia) which is also very much about stopping transphobia.
(They have a good definitions page, as well.)

Attitudes such as that expressed by Miranda Devine are not only in other spheres: they are present in the metaphysical/"spiritual" arenas of life as well:
Strapped to a chair and doused, teen dies during 'exorcism'

http://www.theage.com.au/world/strapped-to-a-chair-and-doused-teen-dies-during-exorcism-20110928-1kw4d.html

Now, ECT sometimes dislodges spirits, but its main effect is more likely to be exactly as the doctors say it is working. Mild discomfort generally may discourage spirits, but if it is more than mild discomfort, it is not likely to work. Apart from such spirits often being in greater psychic pain than you can create physically, the aim of any exorcism or rescue is to help, not harm. On that, I've also quite successfully done such "exorcisms" or rescue at a distance, so even thinking it is necessary to be present is wrong. The story I've given a link to above is simply of behaviour that is WRONG. In fact, so what if she has been ill? Isn't that be more of a test of how her parents will react - will they be loving and supportive, or will they put their ego and the status of their ... family or role ahead of the wellbeing of the child? I've seen water splashed in a face to bring someone out of an involuntary trance, but dousing someone continuously???? Sounds more like torture ... was the father angry at the daughter for not being what he wanted, perhaps? Where was the common sense in all this???

Things such as attidtudes of that .. "misguided" Miranda Devine do change with time - the very fact that TGV now exists is an example, as is the general trend over the last few hundred years for better human rights (e.g., consider the fairly widespread abolition of slavery - which is NOT world wide yet), or attempts at better human rights (many of the situations I've mentioned above, however, show that more work is still needed), in many areas of life. In fact, all things will change, including the current "security theatre" approach to air travel security. The current problems attributable to the TSA, problems which I consider akin to sexual assault (seen the video of the children who are disturbed and crying as a result of being touched? Where is Miranda Devine on that!!), will eventually pass - at which stage I will be happy to resume travelling by air. See here for a study which estimates that the consequences of security equate to around four 737s a year crashing (through a 6% decrease in the number of passengers, who travel by roads because of the invasive security measures and experience road accidents as a result - since the flying itself is actually much safer than driving). Sadly, change may have to wait until someone does a study into the psychological consequences of the "enhanced pat downs", as they are called.

So, moving on ... I am currently reading and enjoying the "Allie Beckstrom" series of fantasy novels by Devon Monk. In these novels, which refer to the use of glyphs and hence get my interest :) , use of magic leads to an immediate payment of a price in some way - generally physical pain, but possibly loss of memory as well. It's an interesting idea, and one which is useful to sort of illustrate the reality that what one does will have consequences: if someone psychically attacks another person, it will come back to them, for instance. I also keep in mind that, if I have sought a Deity's help, that will also have some consequences - and hence, for instance, if I am ... lighting a candle to call on a particular rune, I will first light one candle in honour of, and to feed, the rune itself, and only then will I light a candle for my request. It's a bit like paying in advance - or, perhaps more accurately, nurturing a friendship rather than calling on someone for help, perhaps to move, when you haven't seen or contacted them for ages. (Of course, the other side to this is that anything you do that is good will also come back to you.)

One aspect of these novels that I would slightly qualify is around casting magic while in a state of high emotion. In a generic sense (which is not the situations of mortal danger that the series of books are referring to), it is important to be able to focus, and hence emotion can be a weakening influence. On the other hand, however, if it is appropriately directed, emotion (which does, after all, include love - in all its myriad forms) can be a strengthening influence - which is included in this series of books by the books' concept of "Soul Complements", people who can combine together, in a sense, and thus create more powerful magic. (This reminds me also Marion Zimmer Bradley's novel "The Forbidden Tower", from her "Darkover" series of novels, which also addresses - in part - sex, sexuality and intimacy and the potential for these to help or hinder magic.)

On reading, a few other links are:


Love, light, hugs and blessings

Gnwmythr
(pronounced "new-MYTH-ear")


Tags: change, forgiveness, guilt, knowledge, magic, magical squares, punishment, rehabilitation, sin, society

First published: Laugadagr, 122nd October, 2011

Last edited: Saturday, 22nd October, 2011